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Showing posts with label trust. Show all posts

Sensual Breast Massage

Womans Breast Massage
As well as being highly pleasurable, breast massage has considerable health benefits too such as, improving blood and lymphatic circulation, flushing out toxins, understanding and noticing any changes in the breasts, strengthening the muscle tissue in the chest and bringing awareness, healing and increased sensitivity to the whole area. If done with a partner it can also deepen intimacy with each other.The area of the breasts is often the seat of a woman's sexuality and a powerful portal into the heart. Massaging this area connects to the heart energy which, from a tantric perspective, is also one of the energetic positive poles in women. Women have different levels of sensitivity which can change during the massage and may feel anything from mildly/gently stimulating to highly arousing sensations, so touch given in a mindful and loving way is essential.

A woman can of course do this herself, or if her partner would like to give the massage, here are a few tips...

Make yourself comfortable ~ Women, lie on your back using cushions to prop yourself up a little if you wish, with knees slightly bent so your partner can sit between your legs. Your partner could also sit behind you, supporting you in a more upright position, with you leaning back into him.

Take time to connect ~ This is a time for both of you to relax, drop the busyness of the mind and enjoy. Depending on the position that you have chosen, the man could place one hand over the woman's heart centre and spend a couple of minutes just gazing softly at each other. If the man is behind supporting her, acknowledge each others presence by gently breathing together.

Stay present ~ Once you're ready to begin the massage, the man can try this visualisation...remain aware of your breath whilst feeling or visualising a warm energy travelling from your heart, through your arms, spreading into your hands and fingertips and continuing into wherever your hands are on your partners body. Women, also stay aware of your breath. Keep your full attention in your breasts, visualising them filling with energy as you slowly inhale and exhale.

Warm some oil in the palms of your hands. Good quality coconut, grapeseed or almond are great choices.

~ Start by placing your hands in the centre of the chest and then, using the palm of your hand and light pressure, massage around the breast using slow circular movements.
~ Massage from centre outwards towards the shoulder or underarm area.
~ Take your time to enjoy the sensations whilst you let your hand glide slowly over your partners skin.
~ Using both hands, lift the breast away from the chest and gently knead using a lifting and pressing action.
~ Again with both hands and a sensitive touch, gently twist the breast in a kind of wringing motion.
~ Softly stroke the area between the breasts, gliding your hands up with feather like strokes.
~ Placing your hand over the breast so that you can feel the nipple touching the centre of your palm, spread your fingers wide and then slowly begin to bring them together until they reach the nipple where you can give a soft, light pinch.
~ Using your thumb and finger, slowly begin to massage the nipple in a circular motion. Continue on to gently squeezing and then pulling the nipple towards you - or away from you if sitting behind her. 
~ Repeat on the other breast

To finish the massage, be sure to integrate the breasts with the rest of her body. You can do this by gently sweeping your hands up the centre of her chest, over her breasts, down her arms and over her belly. Over the breasts, up the neck, sides of the face and through the hair is also great if sitting behind her.

Love Rachael and Carmelle  

Post Birth Tantra Massage

Woman in nature birth renewal
In many different cultures throughout the world, when a woman has given birth, it is recognised to be such a sacred and sensitive time. A woman is then given the time and the space to heal after the impact of childbirth. A Brazilian friend of mine explained that after giving birth she was to recuperate and heal for the first month in bed. Her only task was to breastfeed, her child brought to her when nourishment was needed and of course to bond! This idea is present in many cultures still today.

Also, when a woman has given birth, the pelvis drops and massage is needed directly if possible after and frequently to help it return to its natural place. This often takes place on a daily basis for the month following birth.

The trauma often experienced during childbirth, both emotionally and physically, can leave a strong imprint, so it is very important for healing and release of any less than positive memory stored in the body. Touch and healing massage are a great healer and help to integrate such a powerful experience.

Ecstatic birthing and empowered birthing are very much at the forefront today with women taking back the power and the knowledge that as woman, our bodies indeed have all the knowledge and wisdom we need to give birth - whether or not we choose to have conventional medical assistance and sometimes intervention, or the unconventional choice of a growing number of woman choosing unassisted birthing.

After the birth of my twins, healing massage was part of my recovery and felt essential to healing any residue of trauma I experienced. My birth was in many ways empowered, but I fought all the way for that choice. Just to share in short my own birth journey and some challenges I faced and my own need for healing... Whilst my labour was an amazing journey through hypno birthing and drug free, I was also amazed to experience a lot of natural serotonin flooding my cells and blissful sensations in the comfort of my own home, whilst immersed in water. My actual delivery happened in hospital under bright lights with a desperation for me to deliver quickly and with the constant threat of a cesarean thrust at me from the medical establishment. Unfortunately, I had been pushing for some time at home with little happening, so hospital was the next port of call where I delivered quickly and following my little boys infection we spent his first few days in hospital.

Luckily for me, Rachael was on hand to help me with that healing process and her sensitive intuitive touch allowed me to open to energetic wounds and holdings and release physically and emotionally. Also to reconnect to myself as a woman and not just a mother in the months following the birth.

In our experience in giving woman tantra massage post birth, alot of women are experiencing feelings of being cut off from their sexuality, low libido, loss of identity whilst integrating their new body image and lack of self love due to the new pressures of having to give out constantly.
Self love and reconnective massage can be vital in this integration process and a wonderful gift to give yourself or your partner.

With love, Carmelle and Rachael  
   

First tantric session?

Image containing text intimacy presence tantra
When going for a Tantra session, especially if it's the first time, along with a feeling of excitement it may also be quite daunting! You may have a whole cocktail of thoughts whirling around in your head: What will happen? What do I do? How should I be? What if I do something wrong?...

A beautiful and easier way to approach a session is with the curiosity of a child discovering something new. A child is very much in the present, not concerned with a particular outcome, just enjoying and engrossed fully in the moment.

A word that you may have heard when reading about Tantra is 'surrender.' This is not a surrender to another person or giving up/losing something of ourselves or abandoning personal responsibility. It is a letting go, a trusting. Letting go of any preconceived ideas of ourself, the session, the outcome, and the questions whirling around in our head, and trusting in the power of our higher self. A very simple way to experience surrender is with the breath. Each exhale is surrender, a letting go, reaching deeper, relaxing further. Letting go of this control, which is often fear based, can make us feel quite vulnerable at first but it also allows us to be more open and to connect more fully and authentically.

'The best way is to simply surrender to existence and allow it to take you wherever it takes you; it has never taken anybody into any wrong space. It always takes you back home. The essential surrender happens within you, it has nothing to do with anybody outside you. The basic surrender is a relaxation, a trust — so don’t be misguided by the word. Linguistically, surrender means to surrender to somebody, but religiously, surrender simply means trust, relaxing. It is an attitude rather than an act: you live through trust' ~ Osho


Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Female Massage - Releasing Inner Wild Woman

Rose petals sensualFemale Tantric massage is an amazing journey and never ending discovery.
The experience of a full body massage in such a heart felt way by fellow woman is extremely healing.


This massage entitles us and welcomes us to completely surrender and fully let go. An opportunity to focus on ourselves, and remind ourselves how fascinating and complex woman's sexuality really is.
The surrender can be challenging as we are used to interacting and engaging when in an intimate situation. In your Tantra massage we will support and hold the space for you to really own your own experience which is truly healing and empowering.

In these sessions it is possible to experience a range of different things from emotional releases to ecstatic bliss. As woman we often hold on to trauma in our bodies that we are totally unaware of. Trauma from childbirth, painful periods, sexual abuse, shame or guilt, to name a few. Also from being touched in ways that were neither respectful or satisfying.

Our intention is to be fully present and open to your needs whilst setting clear boundaries necessary in honouring such a sacred experience.
In Tantra massage the journey is always the most important part and the focus on breathe helps to keep us present and alive in each moment we experience. Goalposts only get in the way, along with expectations. Our childlike curiosity will stand us in good stead for embarking on our wild personal adventure!

Love Carmelle and Rachael 


New wild woman

Woman stretching renewal and liberation
Being on the receiving end of a tantra massage is often a very powerful and healing experience. One of the most important things is to have a good feeling about the person or persons who will hold the space for the session to take place.

When we mention healing and specific reasons why you may benefit from a tantric massage with ourselves, our own journey and personal experiences receiving tantra massage have been so liberating. The feeling of deep connection experienced within oneself often brings out the primal instincts of the forgotten wild woman suppressed within. This is brought about by releasing holdings and trauma in the body that we are often quite unaware of. Tantra massage is extremely healing and beneficial for:

-Emotional release (very cathartic)
-Painful periods or menopause
-Sexual traumas or sexual blocks (often unconscious)
-Shame around sexuality, often caused by society's conditioning
-Opening the heart and integrating the whole of oneself
-Awakening and accessing your own ecstatic spontaneous energy which is often lying dormant waiting to be aroused. This can be truly life changing.

The experience of the above releases can be very intense as we let go of what no longer is serving us and make space for new vital lighter energy. You may experience spontaneous energy making the body shudder or the release of sounds (very grounding) which we will encourage you to allow as the body opens up. You may instead be experiencing a more internal process which is equally as beneficial as we trust whatever takes place within a session will be what is needed at your core level and is your own unique experience.

The massage itself is whole body with the intention of integrating our sexual energy, emotional body whilst remaining present and aware.
We fully respect and encourage your boundaries and wishes regarding the session.

Love Carmelle and Rachael

Tip 3 - Eye Gazing

Man Woman Eye Gazing
In one of our sessions last week we were doing the beautiful practice of eye gazing. We were asked: ‘what happens if you are doing this with someone you are not attracted to, dislike or upset with?’...This practice can bring up many things for people: vulnerability, awkwardness, joy, resistance, openness, a feeling of being exposed or silly, ecstatic feelings...

Eye gazing is a form of meditation and can be done with a partner, a friend, on your own using a mirror, or sometimes with complete strangers if you are attending a workshop. The intention is to go behind and seeing beyond the other person’s expression or perceived level of attractiveness. Or in the case of a partner: perhaps any disagreements, grudges or resentments. It is about holding a sense of reverence and seeing the other person as a manifestation of the divine. It also teaches you to be fully present and relaxed, form deep connection, opens the heart and enables an acceptance of yourself and the person that you are sharing the practice with.


Agree on how long you will devote to this practice.
Start by sitting opposite each other, cross legged if that is comfortable, and close your eyes...
Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into the lower abdomen- It is not necessary at this point to try and synchronize your breathing together, although this tends to happen naturally after a while.
Once you feel centred and relaxed open your eyes...
Look into your partners left eye, keeping your eyes engaged but soft...
Let any thoughts, desires, distractions pass by allowing you the space to connect with the essence of the other person and then a feeling of expansion that goes beyond the two of you.
Finish with an embrace or Namaste and give each other five minutes in which to share how you felt.

Doing this practice creates oneness and a sense of dissolving or merging into another which are all important and central to the practice of Tantra.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Tantric Play

Yin Yang SymbolWe have a lot of fun playing this game and thought you might like to try it. You may be familiar with the concept of Yin Yang and how they are based on opposites that make the whole. This is because each also contains an element of varying degrees of the other. One is not better than the other, rather they are both necessary and the ideal would be a balance of both. An example of Yin would be; receptive, stillness, female, cold, moon. Yang; force, movement, masculine, heat, sun.

Firstly you choose who will be yang -they will be expressing their desires. It is a chance to clearly speak your own thoughts and wishes. It can be difficult sometimes to just receive as we often feel we need to (or want to) give something back in return. An example you may wish for could be a massage. Be specific and let your partner know which essential oil you would like, the pressure of touch, how long it should last etc.

The role of yin is one of nurturing, being present and encouraging yang to explore and be open about their desires. This will create intimacy, strong communication and trust.

A few things to consider; decide how long each of you will have, You may have a couple of wishes that could last for a few hours or lots of little ones that you can spread out over the agreed time. Remember that the intention of this is not a power play situation. Do not ask for something that you know your partner cannot or would not be comfortable doing. It also does not have to be sexual wishes. This can be a great chance to challenge ourselves a bit in a fun way as we can often find it difficult to ask for things we want for fear of seeming selfish, being rejected, lack of time and numerous other things. Explore and be creative but most of all have a sense of playfulness.

Love Carmelle and Rachael