Showing posts with label playfulness. Show all posts
Showing posts with label playfulness. Show all posts

The gift of unconditional touch

Woman receiving a gift of massage touchThe power of touch is so great it can lift your spirit to new heights or bring you down to earth with a thud! It can bring tingling, feelings of being adored, irritation, numbness, passion, excitement, warmth...what have you felt? There is no touch more amazing than one which is given purely for touch's sake. It is not being initiated as a precursor for sex or on condition that we return the favour. To allow ourselves to receive and receive fully, we must surrender any goals or specific outcomes and instead be tuned in with and relax into whatever we may be feeling in that present moment and the easiest way of doing this is to stay conscious with your breath.

To give unconditional touch can be an incredibly sensual and also healing experience, both for the giver and receiver. When giving, start by taking your awareness away from your partner and focus on your fingertips. Bring them to life! If you close your eyes when you begin to touch, this will heighten the feeling in the pads of your fingers. Make your intention one of meditation and visualise or feel the energy coming from your hands. Let your fingers sense what is desired in that moment instead of worrying about a technique.

You can use slow sweeping strokes, light stroking or even your breath. Blowing slowly up the spine will make your partner tingle! Let a hand just rest sometimes, perhaps on the heart, and connect with the eyes. Explore the texture of the skin. Where does it change? Can you find the very smoothest part? Feel your partner's body temperature and for any sensations such as vibrating, tenseness, relaxation. Caress along the inner arms and down to the centre of the palms. Use your mouth and your breath around the neck and ears. Don't overlook any parts of the body...you may be surprised which areas bring pleasure!

If you feel yourself forming an agenda or getting restless, acknowledge that as a distraction and let yourself move through it, letting it pass. The key to giving is staying present and connected to your partner, thus creating trust and opening the heart centre.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Tantric Play

Yin Yang SymbolWe have a lot of fun playing this game and thought you might like to try it. You may be familiar with the concept of Yin Yang and how they are based on opposites that make the whole. This is because each also contains an element of varying degrees of the other. One is not better than the other, rather they are both necessary and the ideal would be a balance of both. An example of Yin would be; receptive, stillness, female, cold, moon. Yang; force, movement, masculine, heat, sun.

Firstly you choose who will be yang -they will be expressing their desires. It is a chance to clearly speak your own thoughts and wishes. It can be difficult sometimes to just receive as we often feel we need to (or want to) give something back in return. An example you may wish for could be a massage. Be specific and let your partner know which essential oil you would like, the pressure of touch, how long it should last etc.

The role of yin is one of nurturing, being present and encouraging yang to explore and be open about their desires. This will create intimacy, strong communication and trust.

A few things to consider; decide how long each of you will have, You may have a couple of wishes that could last for a few hours or lots of little ones that you can spread out over the agreed time. Remember that the intention of this is not a power play situation. Do not ask for something that you know your partner cannot or would not be comfortable doing. It also does not have to be sexual wishes. This can be a great chance to challenge ourselves a bit in a fun way as we can often find it difficult to ask for things we want for fear of seeming selfish, being rejected, lack of time and numerous other things. Explore and be creative but most of all have a sense of playfulness.

Love Carmelle and Rachael