Showing posts with label energy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label energy. Show all posts

The gift of unconditional touch

Woman receiving a gift of massage touchThe power of touch is so great it can lift your spirit to new heights or bring you down to earth with a thud! It can bring tingling, feelings of being adored, irritation, numbness, passion, excitement, warmth...what have you felt? There is no touch more amazing than one which is given purely for touch's sake. It is not being initiated as a precursor for sex or on condition that we return the favour. To allow ourselves to receive and receive fully, we must surrender any goals or specific outcomes and instead be tuned in with and relax into whatever we may be feeling in that present moment and the easiest way of doing this is to stay conscious with your breath.

To give unconditional touch can be an incredibly sensual and also healing experience, both for the giver and receiver. When giving, start by taking your awareness away from your partner and focus on your fingertips. Bring them to life! If you close your eyes when you begin to touch, this will heighten the feeling in the pads of your fingers. Make your intention one of meditation and visualise or feel the energy coming from your hands. Let your fingers sense what is desired in that moment instead of worrying about a technique.

You can use slow sweeping strokes, light stroking or even your breath. Blowing slowly up the spine will make your partner tingle! Let a hand just rest sometimes, perhaps on the heart, and connect with the eyes. Explore the texture of the skin. Where does it change? Can you find the very smoothest part? Feel your partner's body temperature and for any sensations such as vibrating, tenseness, relaxation. Caress along the inner arms and down to the centre of the palms. Use your mouth and your breath around the neck and ears. Don't overlook any parts of the body...you may be surprised which areas bring pleasure!

If you feel yourself forming an agenda or getting restless, acknowledge that as a distraction and let yourself move through it, letting it pass. The key to giving is staying present and connected to your partner, thus creating trust and opening the heart centre.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Tip 3 - Eye Gazing

Man Woman Eye Gazing
In one of our sessions last week we were doing the beautiful practice of eye gazing. We were asked: ‘what happens if you are doing this with someone you are not attracted to, dislike or upset with?’...This practice can bring up many things for people: vulnerability, awkwardness, joy, resistance, openness, a feeling of being exposed or silly, ecstatic feelings...

Eye gazing is a form of meditation and can be done with a partner, a friend, on your own using a mirror, or sometimes with complete strangers if you are attending a workshop. The intention is to go behind and seeing beyond the other person’s expression or perceived level of attractiveness. Or in the case of a partner: perhaps any disagreements, grudges or resentments. It is about holding a sense of reverence and seeing the other person as a manifestation of the divine. It also teaches you to be fully present and relaxed, form deep connection, opens the heart and enables an acceptance of yourself and the person that you are sharing the practice with.


Agree on how long you will devote to this practice.
Start by sitting opposite each other, cross legged if that is comfortable, and close your eyes...
Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into the lower abdomen- It is not necessary at this point to try and synchronize your breathing together, although this tends to happen naturally after a while.
Once you feel centred and relaxed open your eyes...
Look into your partners left eye, keeping your eyes engaged but soft...
Let any thoughts, desires, distractions pass by allowing you the space to connect with the essence of the other person and then a feeling of expansion that goes beyond the two of you.
Finish with an embrace or Namaste and give each other five minutes in which to share how you felt.

Doing this practice creates oneness and a sense of dissolving or merging into another which are all important and central to the practice of Tantra.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Tip 2 - Releasing and awakening

Chakras meditationHere we are in 2009! How did you start your year...with a spring in your step, in a daze, full of good intentions, excitement and/or nervousness about the future, holding on to disappointments, celebrating with joy and a sense of lightness and wonder about yourself and those around you?

Last year we found ourselves spending an amazing, joyful time in northern California where we participated in a Tantra group workshop led by Steve and Lokita Carter from the Ecstatic Living Institute and Margot Anand. We started every morning with an active meditation...one of them being the Quantum Light Breath. This is a dynamic breath meditation which was originally created by Jeru Kabal, the late mystic. There is another version by Richard Bock and the Quantum Light Breath Orchestra which is equally powerful. Richard Bock studied with Jeru in 1992 and he came along on one of the mornings and guided us through the meditation accompanied by wonderful live music...it was an unforgettable experience...


Practicing Tantra almost inevitably means having to do emotional healing work...a spring clean of things that are holding us back, releasing old beliefs, emotions, thoughts and dissolving those barriers that have been limiting us...to clear the path and avoid falling back into old patterns... The Quantum Light Breath meditation is a great tool to use for this and also going through any kind of transition or seeking spiritual expansion. You can do it alone however we would recommend doing it with someone for the first time and of course the energy changes again with a group dynamic. You may find different things coming up: emotions, thoughts or sensations and it is important to allow those things to just be there without becoming involved or caught up in them.

Anything that helps us to feel stronger, more balanced and fulfilled cannot be bad!

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Tip 1: The love muscle

Text suggesting practice exercise
Tantric practises are easily integrated into daily life in many subtle ways. Here is a technique and easy exercise to begin with, that is simple to integrate whilst going about your daily routine:

A very important muscle, often referred to as the love muscle in Tantra, is the PC (puboccocogeus) muscle. This is the muscle we use to stop the flow of urine and it is present in both men and women.
Using the PC muscle in conjunction with the breath, try inhaling whilst tensing the PC muscle then releasing on the exhale. Once you have mastered that, you can try a quick pulsing action or, when you feel comfortable, try tensing and holding for 6 seconds before releasing. This creates a pleasant sensation as well as moving the energy up the back of the spine and helping to circulate the energy throughout the body. It also has a wonderful rejuvenating effect... very worthwhile when you need a little pick me up!

It is important to keep this muscle strong and healthy by exercising it regularly. The benefits are expanded orgasm and pleasure, heightened sensations during lovemaking and stronger ejaculation control.

Love Carmelle and Rachael