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Sensual Breast Massage

Womans Breast Massage
As well as being highly pleasurable, breast massage has considerable health benefits too such as, improving blood and lymphatic circulation, flushing out toxins, understanding and noticing any changes in the breasts, strengthening the muscle tissue in the chest and bringing awareness, healing and increased sensitivity to the whole area. If done with a partner it can also deepen intimacy with each other.The area of the breasts is often the seat of a woman's sexuality and a powerful portal into the heart. Massaging this area connects to the heart energy which, from a tantric perspective, is also one of the energetic positive poles in women. Women have different levels of sensitivity which can change during the massage and may feel anything from mildly/gently stimulating to highly arousing sensations, so touch given in a mindful and loving way is essential.

A woman can of course do this herself, or if her partner would like to give the massage, here are a few tips...

Make yourself comfortable ~ Women, lie on your back using cushions to prop yourself up a little if you wish, with knees slightly bent so your partner can sit between your legs. Your partner could also sit behind you, supporting you in a more upright position, with you leaning back into him.

Take time to connect ~ This is a time for both of you to relax, drop the busyness of the mind and enjoy. Depending on the position that you have chosen, the man could place one hand over the woman's heart centre and spend a couple of minutes just gazing softly at each other. If the man is behind supporting her, acknowledge each others presence by gently breathing together.

Stay present ~ Once you're ready to begin the massage, the man can try this visualisation...remain aware of your breath whilst feeling or visualising a warm energy travelling from your heart, through your arms, spreading into your hands and fingertips and continuing into wherever your hands are on your partners body. Women, also stay aware of your breath. Keep your full attention in your breasts, visualising them filling with energy as you slowly inhale and exhale.

Warm some oil in the palms of your hands. Good quality coconut, grapeseed or almond are great choices.

~ Start by placing your hands in the centre of the chest and then, using the palm of your hand and light pressure, massage around the breast using slow circular movements.
~ Massage from centre outwards towards the shoulder or underarm area.
~ Take your time to enjoy the sensations whilst you let your hand glide slowly over your partners skin.
~ Using both hands, lift the breast away from the chest and gently knead using a lifting and pressing action.
~ Again with both hands and a sensitive touch, gently twist the breast in a kind of wringing motion.
~ Softly stroke the area between the breasts, gliding your hands up with feather like strokes.
~ Placing your hand over the breast so that you can feel the nipple touching the centre of your palm, spread your fingers wide and then slowly begin to bring them together until they reach the nipple where you can give a soft, light pinch.
~ Using your thumb and finger, slowly begin to massage the nipple in a circular motion. Continue on to gently squeezing and then pulling the nipple towards you - or away from you if sitting behind her. 
~ Repeat on the other breast

To finish the massage, be sure to integrate the breasts with the rest of her body. You can do this by gently sweeping your hands up the centre of her chest, over her breasts, down her arms and over her belly. Over the breasts, up the neck, sides of the face and through the hair is also great if sitting behind her.

Love Rachael and Carmelle  

First tantric session?

Image containing text intimacy presence tantra
When going for a Tantra session, especially if it's the first time, along with a feeling of excitement it may also be quite daunting! You may have a whole cocktail of thoughts whirling around in your head: What will happen? What do I do? How should I be? What if I do something wrong?...

A beautiful and easier way to approach a session is with the curiosity of a child discovering something new. A child is very much in the present, not concerned with a particular outcome, just enjoying and engrossed fully in the moment.

A word that you may have heard when reading about Tantra is 'surrender.' This is not a surrender to another person or giving up/losing something of ourselves or abandoning personal responsibility. It is a letting go, a trusting. Letting go of any preconceived ideas of ourself, the session, the outcome, and the questions whirling around in our head, and trusting in the power of our higher self. A very simple way to experience surrender is with the breath. Each exhale is surrender, a letting go, reaching deeper, relaxing further. Letting go of this control, which is often fear based, can make us feel quite vulnerable at first but it also allows us to be more open and to connect more fully and authentically.

'The best way is to simply surrender to existence and allow it to take you wherever it takes you; it has never taken anybody into any wrong space. It always takes you back home. The essential surrender happens within you, it has nothing to do with anybody outside you. The basic surrender is a relaxation, a trust — so don’t be misguided by the word. Linguistically, surrender means to surrender to somebody, but religiously, surrender simply means trust, relaxing. It is an attitude rather than an act: you live through trust' ~ Osho


Love Rachael and Carmelle 

New wild woman

Woman stretching renewal and liberation
Being on the receiving end of a tantra massage is often a very powerful and healing experience. One of the most important things is to have a good feeling about the person or persons who will hold the space for the session to take place.

When we mention healing and specific reasons why you may benefit from a tantric massage with ourselves, our own journey and personal experiences receiving tantra massage have been so liberating. The feeling of deep connection experienced within oneself often brings out the primal instincts of the forgotten wild woman suppressed within. This is brought about by releasing holdings and trauma in the body that we are often quite unaware of. Tantra massage is extremely healing and beneficial for:

-Emotional release (very cathartic)
-Painful periods or menopause
-Sexual traumas or sexual blocks (often unconscious)
-Shame around sexuality, often caused by society's conditioning
-Opening the heart and integrating the whole of oneself
-Awakening and accessing your own ecstatic spontaneous energy which is often lying dormant waiting to be aroused. This can be truly life changing.

The experience of the above releases can be very intense as we let go of what no longer is serving us and make space for new vital lighter energy. You may experience spontaneous energy making the body shudder or the release of sounds (very grounding) which we will encourage you to allow as the body opens up. You may instead be experiencing a more internal process which is equally as beneficial as we trust whatever takes place within a session will be what is needed at your core level and is your own unique experience.

The massage itself is whole body with the intention of integrating our sexual energy, emotional body whilst remaining present and aware.
We fully respect and encourage your boundaries and wishes regarding the session.

Love Carmelle and Rachael

The gift of unconditional touch

Woman receiving a gift of massage touchThe power of touch is so great it can lift your spirit to new heights or bring you down to earth with a thud! It can bring tingling, feelings of being adored, irritation, numbness, passion, excitement, warmth...what have you felt? There is no touch more amazing than one which is given purely for touch's sake. It is not being initiated as a precursor for sex or on condition that we return the favour. To allow ourselves to receive and receive fully, we must surrender any goals or specific outcomes and instead be tuned in with and relax into whatever we may be feeling in that present moment and the easiest way of doing this is to stay conscious with your breath.

To give unconditional touch can be an incredibly sensual and also healing experience, both for the giver and receiver. When giving, start by taking your awareness away from your partner and focus on your fingertips. Bring them to life! If you close your eyes when you begin to touch, this will heighten the feeling in the pads of your fingers. Make your intention one of meditation and visualise or feel the energy coming from your hands. Let your fingers sense what is desired in that moment instead of worrying about a technique.

You can use slow sweeping strokes, light stroking or even your breath. Blowing slowly up the spine will make your partner tingle! Let a hand just rest sometimes, perhaps on the heart, and connect with the eyes. Explore the texture of the skin. Where does it change? Can you find the very smoothest part? Feel your partner's body temperature and for any sensations such as vibrating, tenseness, relaxation. Caress along the inner arms and down to the centre of the palms. Use your mouth and your breath around the neck and ears. Don't overlook any parts of the body...you may be surprised which areas bring pleasure!

If you feel yourself forming an agenda or getting restless, acknowledge that as a distraction and let yourself move through it, letting it pass. The key to giving is staying present and connected to your partner, thus creating trust and opening the heart centre.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Moving to the same rhythm

Man Woman Dancing Closeness Rhythm
There are days and moments when we can all feel a little out of rhythm with ourselves or our beloved. Hopefully though our desire is to come back and reconnect. This is a very simple but intimate meditation using the breath to tune in and connect with another person.

To begin the man sits leaning against a wall or something that can support him. The woman sits in front and slowly leans back into him, facing the same way. Close your eyes and start to tune into your own breath. Take the breath slowly down into the lower abdomen. Relax. After about 3 or 4 minutes or when the man feels ready he will begin to tune into the woman's breathing. He will breathe in when she breathes in and again follows her when she breathes out. Give yourselves at least 10 minutes before you then swop over. Stay in the same position but the woman will now follow the man's breath. You can finish this meditation by just lying and holding each other or moving into lovemaking.

This meditation is a wonderfully simple way of bringing in closeness, harmony and intimacy and if you wish can also be followed on from the eye gazing practice.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Small delights

Couple watching Sunset on a bench
Last week I was lucky enough to receive a beautiful massage from my Tantric partner. I really felt in need of some serious kneading and pummelling, with sensitivity being a key ingredient...this was certainly delivered with a healing touch...
So lovely to sink into that space of timelessness, feeling tensions and mind chatter slip away. I felt very quickly relaxed and connected to a greater whole.When my pampering session had come to an end I was left to gently rest on our massage table in our Tantric studio, which is situated at quite a height giving amazing views across London.
As I slowly opened my eyes and gently accustomed myself to my surroundings I was filled with a sudden wave of emotion at the beauty around me.The sun was slowly setting and a beautiful dusky red and gold sky was emerging in the distance. It felt at this time as though I was seeing the sunset for the very first time and it truly took my breath away. The richness of the colours merging and changing before my eyes, were truly magical!
It was a great reminder of the natural beauty that constantly surrounds us and the importance in allowing ourselves to slow down, become present in our bodies, and really look at things! Beauty is often in sometimes what we see as mundane or the simple things we take for granted...

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Tip 3 - Eye Gazing

Man Woman Eye Gazing
In one of our sessions last week we were doing the beautiful practice of eye gazing. We were asked: ‘what happens if you are doing this with someone you are not attracted to, dislike or upset with?’...This practice can bring up many things for people: vulnerability, awkwardness, joy, resistance, openness, a feeling of being exposed or silly, ecstatic feelings...

Eye gazing is a form of meditation and can be done with a partner, a friend, on your own using a mirror, or sometimes with complete strangers if you are attending a workshop. The intention is to go behind and seeing beyond the other person’s expression or perceived level of attractiveness. Or in the case of a partner: perhaps any disagreements, grudges or resentments. It is about holding a sense of reverence and seeing the other person as a manifestation of the divine. It also teaches you to be fully present and relaxed, form deep connection, opens the heart and enables an acceptance of yourself and the person that you are sharing the practice with.


Agree on how long you will devote to this practice.
Start by sitting opposite each other, cross legged if that is comfortable, and close your eyes...
Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into the lower abdomen- It is not necessary at this point to try and synchronize your breathing together, although this tends to happen naturally after a while.
Once you feel centred and relaxed open your eyes...
Look into your partners left eye, keeping your eyes engaged but soft...
Let any thoughts, desires, distractions pass by allowing you the space to connect with the essence of the other person and then a feeling of expansion that goes beyond the two of you.
Finish with an embrace or Namaste and give each other five minutes in which to share how you felt.

Doing this practice creates oneness and a sense of dissolving or merging into another which are all important and central to the practice of Tantra.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Tip 1: The love muscle

Text suggesting practice exercise
Tantric practises are easily integrated into daily life in many subtle ways. Here is a technique and easy exercise to begin with, that is simple to integrate whilst going about your daily routine:

A very important muscle, often referred to as the love muscle in Tantra, is the PC (puboccocogeus) muscle. This is the muscle we use to stop the flow of urine and it is present in both men and women.
Using the PC muscle in conjunction with the breath, try inhaling whilst tensing the PC muscle then releasing on the exhale. Once you have mastered that, you can try a quick pulsing action or, when you feel comfortable, try tensing and holding for 6 seconds before releasing. This creates a pleasant sensation as well as moving the energy up the back of the spine and helping to circulate the energy throughout the body. It also has a wonderful rejuvenating effect... very worthwhile when you need a little pick me up!

It is important to keep this muscle strong and healthy by exercising it regularly. The benefits are expanded orgasm and pleasure, heightened sensations during lovemaking and stronger ejaculation control.

Love Carmelle and Rachael