Showing posts with label Tantric practice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Tantric practice. Show all posts

Sensual Breast Massage

Womans Breast Massage
As well as being highly pleasurable, breast massage has considerable health benefits too such as, improving blood and lymphatic circulation, flushing out toxins, understanding and noticing any changes in the breasts, strengthening the muscle tissue in the chest and bringing awareness, healing and increased sensitivity to the whole area. If done with a partner it can also deepen intimacy with each other.The area of the breasts is often the seat of a woman's sexuality and a powerful portal into the heart. Massaging this area connects to the heart energy which, from a tantric perspective, is also one of the energetic positive poles in women. Women have different levels of sensitivity which can change during the massage and may feel anything from mildly/gently stimulating to highly arousing sensations, so touch given in a mindful and loving way is essential.

A woman can of course do this herself, or if her partner would like to give the massage, here are a few tips...

Make yourself comfortable ~ Women, lie on your back using cushions to prop yourself up a little if you wish, with knees slightly bent so your partner can sit between your legs. Your partner could also sit behind you, supporting you in a more upright position, with you leaning back into him.

Take time to connect ~ This is a time for both of you to relax, drop the busyness of the mind and enjoy. Depending on the position that you have chosen, the man could place one hand over the woman's heart centre and spend a couple of minutes just gazing softly at each other. If the man is behind supporting her, acknowledge each others presence by gently breathing together.

Stay present ~ Once you're ready to begin the massage, the man can try this visualisation...remain aware of your breath whilst feeling or visualising a warm energy travelling from your heart, through your arms, spreading into your hands and fingertips and continuing into wherever your hands are on your partners body. Women, also stay aware of your breath. Keep your full attention in your breasts, visualising them filling with energy as you slowly inhale and exhale.

Warm some oil in the palms of your hands. Good quality coconut, grapeseed or almond are great choices.

~ Start by placing your hands in the centre of the chest and then, using the palm of your hand and light pressure, massage around the breast using slow circular movements.
~ Massage from centre outwards towards the shoulder or underarm area.
~ Take your time to enjoy the sensations whilst you let your hand glide slowly over your partners skin.
~ Using both hands, lift the breast away from the chest and gently knead using a lifting and pressing action.
~ Again with both hands and a sensitive touch, gently twist the breast in a kind of wringing motion.
~ Softly stroke the area between the breasts, gliding your hands up with feather like strokes.
~ Placing your hand over the breast so that you can feel the nipple touching the centre of your palm, spread your fingers wide and then slowly begin to bring them together until they reach the nipple where you can give a soft, light pinch.
~ Using your thumb and finger, slowly begin to massage the nipple in a circular motion. Continue on to gently squeezing and then pulling the nipple towards you - or away from you if sitting behind her. 
~ Repeat on the other breast

To finish the massage, be sure to integrate the breasts with the rest of her body. You can do this by gently sweeping your hands up the centre of her chest, over her breasts, down her arms and over her belly. Over the breasts, up the neck, sides of the face and through the hair is also great if sitting behind her.

Love Rachael and Carmelle  

Spring

Yellow daffodils in field Spring solstice
With Spring Solstice in the air, it's a perfect time to welcome the season according to your beliefs and interests. It's the season of fertility, so a great time to plant the seed for new ideas and intentions.

I myself took part in a ceremony on the Solstice with the intention set as Transformation. It was a beautiful way to welcome a powerful intention through singing, prayer and sharing. Every intention is always made stronger and given power by voicing it to a group, this raises the vibration, provides group healing and sets up an energetic transmission. The power of prayer, being in gratitude and surrender strengthens our intentions and helps to manifest. The surrender is important to release any emotion around attachment to the outcome we may have for our intention, as it may not always look the way we envisioned it and it's important to try and see the changes in any small way they may be presented to us.

Renewal is born as we shine our light on our shadows, share our burdens and lighten our load. Liberating ourselves and feeling the freedom that is our birth right.

love Carmelle and Rachael 

A happy and loving 2010!

Champagne glasses New Years hopes and desires
A new year has begun. A time to remember the past:our achievements, experiences, good and bad times... A time to look forward:to hopes and desires, what we wish for...

This could also be the year in which we decide to just stay more in the present moment. In those moments were we find our mind beginning to wander aimlessly or perhaps going off on its own little mission somewhere, to consciously bring it right back to where we are, what we are doing, who we are with. Right now. Try dropping expectations of what we want, how it should be, and instead live what is happening right now. Live it fully. Live in totality. Live with presence.

'Meditation is an attitude not an activity, so whatever you do can become meditative. The so-called meditation that people go on doing is not meditation. It is the attitude of being in the present which is the core, the central, the essential thing. Do whatever you are doing - walking on the street, running, taking a bath, eating, going to sleep, lying on the bed, relaxing - and remain with the activity totally. With no past, no future, remain in the present. It will be difficult in the beginning - very difficult and very arduous - but by and by you will get the feel of it and then a new door will open, a new realm. Then the thought process will no longer be there' ~ OSHO
love Rachael and Carmelle

Moving to the same rhythm

Man Woman Dancing Closeness Rhythm
There are days and moments when we can all feel a little out of rhythm with ourselves or our beloved. Hopefully though our desire is to come back and reconnect. This is a very simple but intimate meditation using the breath to tune in and connect with another person.

To begin the man sits leaning against a wall or something that can support him. The woman sits in front and slowly leans back into him, facing the same way. Close your eyes and start to tune into your own breath. Take the breath slowly down into the lower abdomen. Relax. After about 3 or 4 minutes or when the man feels ready he will begin to tune into the woman's breathing. He will breathe in when she breathes in and again follows her when she breathes out. Give yourselves at least 10 minutes before you then swop over. Stay in the same position but the woman will now follow the man's breath. You can finish this meditation by just lying and holding each other or moving into lovemaking.

This meditation is a wonderfully simple way of bringing in closeness, harmony and intimacy and if you wish can also be followed on from the eye gazing practice.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Small delights

Couple watching Sunset on a bench
Last week I was lucky enough to receive a beautiful massage from my Tantric partner. I really felt in need of some serious kneading and pummelling, with sensitivity being a key ingredient...this was certainly delivered with a healing touch...
So lovely to sink into that space of timelessness, feeling tensions and mind chatter slip away. I felt very quickly relaxed and connected to a greater whole.When my pampering session had come to an end I was left to gently rest on our massage table in our Tantric studio, which is situated at quite a height giving amazing views across London.
As I slowly opened my eyes and gently accustomed myself to my surroundings I was filled with a sudden wave of emotion at the beauty around me.The sun was slowly setting and a beautiful dusky red and gold sky was emerging in the distance. It felt at this time as though I was seeing the sunset for the very first time and it truly took my breath away. The richness of the colours merging and changing before my eyes, were truly magical!
It was a great reminder of the natural beauty that constantly surrounds us and the importance in allowing ourselves to slow down, become present in our bodies, and really look at things! Beauty is often in sometimes what we see as mundane or the simple things we take for granted...

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Tip 3 - Eye Gazing

Man Woman Eye Gazing
In one of our sessions last week we were doing the beautiful practice of eye gazing. We were asked: ‘what happens if you are doing this with someone you are not attracted to, dislike or upset with?’...This practice can bring up many things for people: vulnerability, awkwardness, joy, resistance, openness, a feeling of being exposed or silly, ecstatic feelings...

Eye gazing is a form of meditation and can be done with a partner, a friend, on your own using a mirror, or sometimes with complete strangers if you are attending a workshop. The intention is to go behind and seeing beyond the other person’s expression or perceived level of attractiveness. Or in the case of a partner: perhaps any disagreements, grudges or resentments. It is about holding a sense of reverence and seeing the other person as a manifestation of the divine. It also teaches you to be fully present and relaxed, form deep connection, opens the heart and enables an acceptance of yourself and the person that you are sharing the practice with.


Agree on how long you will devote to this practice.
Start by sitting opposite each other, cross legged if that is comfortable, and close your eyes...
Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into the lower abdomen- It is not necessary at this point to try and synchronize your breathing together, although this tends to happen naturally after a while.
Once you feel centred and relaxed open your eyes...
Look into your partners left eye, keeping your eyes engaged but soft...
Let any thoughts, desires, distractions pass by allowing you the space to connect with the essence of the other person and then a feeling of expansion that goes beyond the two of you.
Finish with an embrace or Namaste and give each other five minutes in which to share how you felt.

Doing this practice creates oneness and a sense of dissolving or merging into another which are all important and central to the practice of Tantra.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Contraction and expansion

People jumping Expansion Energy Connection Sunset
Wow! Isn't it great to see the first signs of spring. Of course all seasons are special and should be welcomed for what they offer but often we have a preference or a season that is an instant mood enhancer.

That brings me to this month’s topic: Contraction as much as Expansion is a necessary part of our journey and growth and should be welcomed, for it teaches us to be vulnerable and allows us empathy and compassion and most of all acceptance of ourselves and others. Expansion of mind and body consciousness is what many of us strive to maintain in daily living. However, maintaining the state of expanded consciousness in an often busy frenetic world can be extremely challenging. It is often much easier for us to feel connected and experience heightened states of awareness whilst being part of a group dynamic such as a Tantric workshop or experiencing a Tantric session.


All our senses can be remarkably heightened, our perception sharper, our hearts open and receptive and our ability to connect with ourselves and others at a much deeper level. One of the beautiful things about being in a workshop or session space is we are usually forced to work through challenging issues and emotions that arise, but we are doing so in a safe and sacred environment that supports our process with likeminded people. We ourselves have experienced a wide range of emotions on workshops: from laughter to sadness, sometimes almost ready to make a run for the door. Thank goodness we stayed! Imagine what we would have missed...it has often been transformative.


Following Tantric workshops or sessions it is important to be aware that we may experience a period of contraction. This could be experienced in different ways such as feeling detached from ourselves and others as our heart yearns for the deep connection it has recently experienced. A sense of loss is sometimes felt as we struggle to hold on to our newly awakened state. We may also still be processing unresolved issues that have been repressed for some time.It can be challenging integrating our experiences in our relationships and day to day life, so it is vital to take care of yourself at these times and really listen to your body’s signals. It is like letting the dust settle. The great news is you will feel much lighter and in tune with yourself than you probably have felt in a very long time.

Another tip to integrating which we find tremendous fun is to attend interactive group get togethers. Luckily we are spoilt for choice in London. One of our favourites is Dynamic Meditation, practised in many venues throughout London...it really gets you grounded in your body as well as being very cathartic. Chi gong is always a firm favourite with the emphasis on being deeply rooted before starting to circulate ones energy. This helps with counteracting highs and lows and stabilising the body’s energies. A good place to start if you are looking to attend a chi gong class is chikungschool.com
So with these tips we hope this helps you to welcome and accept yourself as the fascinating tapestry you are!


Love Carmelle and Rachael 

Preparation rituals

Woman in bath ritual sensual bathing
Most of us have busy and at times stressful lives. We put our energy into work, children, household duties, financial matters and never ending ‘to do’ lists etc. Sharing intimate times with our partner can often take a back seat or become something hurried before falling asleep!

Whilst we all enjoy a spot of spontaneous lovemaking there is also something to be said for seeing it and approaching it as a ritual...savouring and intensifying every moment. Whether self pleasuring or being with our partner we like to bring in a sense of sacredness and fun. To prepare ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually we create a sacred space. This is normally the bedroom as it is quiet, warm and cosy. The things we bring into the sacred space are important. We like to create a sensual mood so have objects such as precious stones, statues/ornaments, fresh flowers and beautiful fabrics which can be draped to transform or hide any clutter in the room. Lighting is important...soft and subtle candles are a favourite. Music is equally important as the right music has the ability to invoke desires and feelings within us which can help to bring out the inner god/goddess!

So now we’ve prepared the space how about preparing ourselves as well? If you have a night of self- loving in mind you may be thinking ‘what’s the point of that if I’m going to be alone?’ Tantra is about embracing all aspects of ourselves and this includes our own body image. Preparing ourselves and taking time to awaken our senses and honouring the body is important whether you are self pleasuring or making love with a partner.

A nice way to prepare is the bathing ritual, which is one of our favourites. Create and transform your bathroom into a luxurious and inviting space that you can really indulge in. As we mentioned earlier candles, soft lighting and sensual music are all wonderful mood enhancers. Exotic essential oils such as ylang ylang, geranium or jasmine will really heighten and enhance the senses. When you are satisfied with your setting it’s time to sink into your tub and spoil yourself. Now is a good time to start tuning in and becoming aware of the breath. Allow yourself to breathe a little deeper and slower into the lower abdomen...starting to feel a wave of relaxation spreading throughout your body... The bathing ritual is a beautiful gift to pamper oneself or to share with a partner, who you may wish to bathe you. Having a partner wash your hair can be very sexy!

The next step or suggestion is self massage which is wonderful when done in front of a full length mirror or if you prefer, lying down. Take a favourite cushion or pillow and drape with silk or any other sensual fabrics. You may also wish to adorn yourself with jewellery or perhaps a silk robe...something that feels good against the skin. Choose your favourite essential oil and start to spread slowly over the body, really paying attention to every part. Allow yourself to linger over sensitive areas such as your erogenous zones. Continuing to breathe steadily and deeply is also key at this stage, helping you to stay connected with yourself and present in your experience.

Love Carmelle and Rachael


Tip 1: The love muscle

Text suggesting practice exercise
Tantric practises are easily integrated into daily life in many subtle ways. Here is a technique and easy exercise to begin with, that is simple to integrate whilst going about your daily routine:

A very important muscle, often referred to as the love muscle in Tantra, is the PC (puboccocogeus) muscle. This is the muscle we use to stop the flow of urine and it is present in both men and women.
Using the PC muscle in conjunction with the breath, try inhaling whilst tensing the PC muscle then releasing on the exhale. Once you have mastered that, you can try a quick pulsing action or, when you feel comfortable, try tensing and holding for 6 seconds before releasing. This creates a pleasant sensation as well as moving the energy up the back of the spine and helping to circulate the energy throughout the body. It also has a wonderful rejuvenating effect... very worthwhile when you need a little pick me up!

It is important to keep this muscle strong and healthy by exercising it regularly. The benefits are expanded orgasm and pleasure, heightened sensations during lovemaking and stronger ejaculation control.

Love Carmelle and Rachael 


Tantric Play

Yin Yang SymbolWe have a lot of fun playing this game and thought you might like to try it. You may be familiar with the concept of Yin Yang and how they are based on opposites that make the whole. This is because each also contains an element of varying degrees of the other. One is not better than the other, rather they are both necessary and the ideal would be a balance of both. An example of Yin would be; receptive, stillness, female, cold, moon. Yang; force, movement, masculine, heat, sun.

Firstly you choose who will be yang -they will be expressing their desires. It is a chance to clearly speak your own thoughts and wishes. It can be difficult sometimes to just receive as we often feel we need to (or want to) give something back in return. An example you may wish for could be a massage. Be specific and let your partner know which essential oil you would like, the pressure of touch, how long it should last etc.

The role of yin is one of nurturing, being present and encouraging yang to explore and be open about their desires. This will create intimacy, strong communication and trust.

A few things to consider; decide how long each of you will have, You may have a couple of wishes that could last for a few hours or lots of little ones that you can spread out over the agreed time. Remember that the intention of this is not a power play situation. Do not ask for something that you know your partner cannot or would not be comfortable doing. It also does not have to be sexual wishes. This can be a great chance to challenge ourselves a bit in a fun way as we can often find it difficult to ask for things we want for fear of seeming selfish, being rejected, lack of time and numerous other things. Explore and be creative but most of all have a sense of playfulness.

Love Carmelle and Rachael