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Sensual Breast Massage

Womans Breast Massage
As well as being highly pleasurable, breast massage has considerable health benefits too such as, improving blood and lymphatic circulation, flushing out toxins, understanding and noticing any changes in the breasts, strengthening the muscle tissue in the chest and bringing awareness, healing and increased sensitivity to the whole area. If done with a partner it can also deepen intimacy with each other.The area of the breasts is often the seat of a woman's sexuality and a powerful portal into the heart. Massaging this area connects to the heart energy which, from a tantric perspective, is also one of the energetic positive poles in women. Women have different levels of sensitivity which can change during the massage and may feel anything from mildly/gently stimulating to highly arousing sensations, so touch given in a mindful and loving way is essential.

A woman can of course do this herself, or if her partner would like to give the massage, here are a few tips...

Make yourself comfortable ~ Women, lie on your back using cushions to prop yourself up a little if you wish, with knees slightly bent so your partner can sit between your legs. Your partner could also sit behind you, supporting you in a more upright position, with you leaning back into him.

Take time to connect ~ This is a time for both of you to relax, drop the busyness of the mind and enjoy. Depending on the position that you have chosen, the man could place one hand over the woman's heart centre and spend a couple of minutes just gazing softly at each other. If the man is behind supporting her, acknowledge each others presence by gently breathing together.

Stay present ~ Once you're ready to begin the massage, the man can try this visualisation...remain aware of your breath whilst feeling or visualising a warm energy travelling from your heart, through your arms, spreading into your hands and fingertips and continuing into wherever your hands are on your partners body. Women, also stay aware of your breath. Keep your full attention in your breasts, visualising them filling with energy as you slowly inhale and exhale.

Warm some oil in the palms of your hands. Good quality coconut, grapeseed or almond are great choices.

~ Start by placing your hands in the centre of the chest and then, using the palm of your hand and light pressure, massage around the breast using slow circular movements.
~ Massage from centre outwards towards the shoulder or underarm area.
~ Take your time to enjoy the sensations whilst you let your hand glide slowly over your partners skin.
~ Using both hands, lift the breast away from the chest and gently knead using a lifting and pressing action.
~ Again with both hands and a sensitive touch, gently twist the breast in a kind of wringing motion.
~ Softly stroke the area between the breasts, gliding your hands up with feather like strokes.
~ Placing your hand over the breast so that you can feel the nipple touching the centre of your palm, spread your fingers wide and then slowly begin to bring them together until they reach the nipple where you can give a soft, light pinch.
~ Using your thumb and finger, slowly begin to massage the nipple in a circular motion. Continue on to gently squeezing and then pulling the nipple towards you - or away from you if sitting behind her. 
~ Repeat on the other breast

To finish the massage, be sure to integrate the breasts with the rest of her body. You can do this by gently sweeping your hands up the centre of her chest, over her breasts, down her arms and over her belly. Over the breasts, up the neck, sides of the face and through the hair is also great if sitting behind her.

Love Rachael and Carmelle  

Moving to the same rhythm

Man Woman Dancing Closeness Rhythm
There are days and moments when we can all feel a little out of rhythm with ourselves or our beloved. Hopefully though our desire is to come back and reconnect. This is a very simple but intimate meditation using the breath to tune in and connect with another person.

To begin the man sits leaning against a wall or something that can support him. The woman sits in front and slowly leans back into him, facing the same way. Close your eyes and start to tune into your own breath. Take the breath slowly down into the lower abdomen. Relax. After about 3 or 4 minutes or when the man feels ready he will begin to tune into the woman's breathing. He will breathe in when she breathes in and again follows her when she breathes out. Give yourselves at least 10 minutes before you then swop over. Stay in the same position but the woman will now follow the man's breath. You can finish this meditation by just lying and holding each other or moving into lovemaking.

This meditation is a wonderfully simple way of bringing in closeness, harmony and intimacy and if you wish can also be followed on from the eye gazing practice.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Intimate loving - Orgasmic living

Man Woman Kissing Intimacy Nature Sensual
For a lot of people there is a certain misunderstanding and mystery surrounding Tantra and sex. This is partly due to the way in which we view and approach sex, both on our own or with a partner. In the west we often crave immediate gratification, using sex as a source of releasing stress, seeing ejaculation as the goal to be reached, touching but not really feeling the other person, assuming that if you just spend some time focusing on the genital area, he/she will be turned on and ready for the ‘next step.’
Whilst there is nothing particularly bad about that you can lose the more subtle and expanding sensations as the experience tends to be limited and localized in the genital area only. We look for outside sources for stimulation, for example, pornography, sex toys, fantasies, something (or someone) new to spice things up. We can lose the ability to just look within to turn ourselves on.

There are many stereotypical ideas that we attach or expect from each other. Men are often expected to be powerful and to initiate sex. They may feel pressure about giving a good performance and having an amazing sexual technique. This can lead to anxiety and disconnection as it then becomes a sex ‘act’ by only staying in the mind rather than approaching lovemaking from your heart and body too. Women can often have negative feelings about their bodies; not smooth, thin, firm, too fat, too dimply...the list can be endless. Social conditioning can make it difficult for women to express their desires and needs for the fear of seeming aggressive or feeling vulnerable.

Only by discarding those gender stereotypes and allowing ourselves to accept and explore both the masculine and feminine aspects in each of us can we begin to relate to each other and understand our full potential.

Often in our relationships it can be difficult to maintain the freshness and the wonder that we had in the early stages of being together. We get attached to the story of who we are and the roles we play within our partnership. Old resentments and playing out old habits of relating to each other make it difficult to view our beloved through fresh eyes. This often carries through to our sexual relationships and it can quickly feel stale as we struggle to retain the early excitement. We can sometimes feel disconnected as we struggle to let go of old hurts and emotions bubbling under the surface.

In Tantric lovemaking we focus on being in the present and having a sense of awareness and consciousness with every gesture and touch, allowing our intention to be clear and flowing freely, which naturally occurs when surrendering into the present moment. Tantric lovemaking is like a dance; it is the energy between two people and what it creates and stirs deep within, flowing between you in an organic way. It is a shared journey and a merging of sexual energy, passion and intimacy building in a slow conscious way....melting together. It is less about doing something and more about just being.

Our Tantric sexual journey is made sacred; one way is to create a new environment, in fact we often refer to it as our sacred space. Our sacred space is the place in which all that is failing to serve us is left outside. For example an argument we may have had with a partner is left aside. A big part of Tantra is communication with open hearts, this makes it easier to tap into our truth and share in an uncensored way with our partner without fear or judgement.

A beautiful Tantric exercise is the hollow bamboo. This is where one partner assumes the role of giver and the other as receiver. The giver, Shiva, is the empty bamboo and must listen in totality to instructions by the receiver, Shakti. An example is Shiva giving Shakti a yoni massage. Eye contact and direct communication is kept throughout and Shiva is wholly there for whatever Shakti's experience may be. It can be extremely healing for both partners, as well as being mind blowing and orgasmic.....

Although we do not offer Tantric sex sessions, we do offer ways in which you can start to explore your own personal Tantric journey.

Love Carmelle and Rachael