Showing posts with label Massage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Massage. Show all posts

Post Birth Tantra Massage

Woman in nature birth renewal
In many different cultures throughout the world, when a woman has given birth, it is recognised to be such a sacred and sensitive time. A woman is then given the time and the space to heal after the impact of childbirth. A Brazilian friend of mine explained that after giving birth she was to recuperate and heal for the first month in bed. Her only task was to breastfeed, her child brought to her when nourishment was needed and of course to bond! This idea is present in many cultures still today.

Also, when a woman has given birth, the pelvis drops and massage is needed directly if possible after and frequently to help it return to its natural place. This often takes place on a daily basis for the month following birth.

The trauma often experienced during childbirth, both emotionally and physically, can leave a strong imprint, so it is very important for healing and release of any less than positive memory stored in the body. Touch and healing massage are a great healer and help to integrate such a powerful experience.

Ecstatic birthing and empowered birthing are very much at the forefront today with women taking back the power and the knowledge that as woman, our bodies indeed have all the knowledge and wisdom we need to give birth - whether or not we choose to have conventional medical assistance and sometimes intervention, or the unconventional choice of a growing number of woman choosing unassisted birthing.

After the birth of my twins, healing massage was part of my recovery and felt essential to healing any residue of trauma I experienced. My birth was in many ways empowered, but I fought all the way for that choice. Just to share in short my own birth journey and some challenges I faced and my own need for healing... Whilst my labour was an amazing journey through hypno birthing and drug free, I was also amazed to experience a lot of natural serotonin flooding my cells and blissful sensations in the comfort of my own home, whilst immersed in water. My actual delivery happened in hospital under bright lights with a desperation for me to deliver quickly and with the constant threat of a cesarean thrust at me from the medical establishment. Unfortunately, I had been pushing for some time at home with little happening, so hospital was the next port of call where I delivered quickly and following my little boys infection we spent his first few days in hospital.

Luckily for me, Rachael was on hand to help me with that healing process and her sensitive intuitive touch allowed me to open to energetic wounds and holdings and release physically and emotionally. Also to reconnect to myself as a woman and not just a mother in the months following the birth.

In our experience in giving woman tantra massage post birth, alot of women are experiencing feelings of being cut off from their sexuality, low libido, loss of identity whilst integrating their new body image and lack of self love due to the new pressures of having to give out constantly.
Self love and reconnective massage can be vital in this integration process and a wonderful gift to give yourself or your partner.

With love, Carmelle and Rachael  
   

The gift of unconditional touch

Woman receiving a gift of massage touchThe power of touch is so great it can lift your spirit to new heights or bring you down to earth with a thud! It can bring tingling, feelings of being adored, irritation, numbness, passion, excitement, warmth...what have you felt? There is no touch more amazing than one which is given purely for touch's sake. It is not being initiated as a precursor for sex or on condition that we return the favour. To allow ourselves to receive and receive fully, we must surrender any goals or specific outcomes and instead be tuned in with and relax into whatever we may be feeling in that present moment and the easiest way of doing this is to stay conscious with your breath.

To give unconditional touch can be an incredibly sensual and also healing experience, both for the giver and receiver. When giving, start by taking your awareness away from your partner and focus on your fingertips. Bring them to life! If you close your eyes when you begin to touch, this will heighten the feeling in the pads of your fingers. Make your intention one of meditation and visualise or feel the energy coming from your hands. Let your fingers sense what is desired in that moment instead of worrying about a technique.

You can use slow sweeping strokes, light stroking or even your breath. Blowing slowly up the spine will make your partner tingle! Let a hand just rest sometimes, perhaps on the heart, and connect with the eyes. Explore the texture of the skin. Where does it change? Can you find the very smoothest part? Feel your partner's body temperature and for any sensations such as vibrating, tenseness, relaxation. Caress along the inner arms and down to the centre of the palms. Use your mouth and your breath around the neck and ears. Don't overlook any parts of the body...you may be surprised which areas bring pleasure!

If you feel yourself forming an agenda or getting restless, acknowledge that as a distraction and let yourself move through it, letting it pass. The key to giving is staying present and connected to your partner, thus creating trust and opening the heart centre.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Preparation rituals

Woman in bath ritual sensual bathing
Most of us have busy and at times stressful lives. We put our energy into work, children, household duties, financial matters and never ending ‘to do’ lists etc. Sharing intimate times with our partner can often take a back seat or become something hurried before falling asleep!

Whilst we all enjoy a spot of spontaneous lovemaking there is also something to be said for seeing it and approaching it as a ritual...savouring and intensifying every moment. Whether self pleasuring or being with our partner we like to bring in a sense of sacredness and fun. To prepare ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually we create a sacred space. This is normally the bedroom as it is quiet, warm and cosy. The things we bring into the sacred space are important. We like to create a sensual mood so have objects such as precious stones, statues/ornaments, fresh flowers and beautiful fabrics which can be draped to transform or hide any clutter in the room. Lighting is important...soft and subtle candles are a favourite. Music is equally important as the right music has the ability to invoke desires and feelings within us which can help to bring out the inner god/goddess!

So now we’ve prepared the space how about preparing ourselves as well? If you have a night of self- loving in mind you may be thinking ‘what’s the point of that if I’m going to be alone?’ Tantra is about embracing all aspects of ourselves and this includes our own body image. Preparing ourselves and taking time to awaken our senses and honouring the body is important whether you are self pleasuring or making love with a partner.

A nice way to prepare is the bathing ritual, which is one of our favourites. Create and transform your bathroom into a luxurious and inviting space that you can really indulge in. As we mentioned earlier candles, soft lighting and sensual music are all wonderful mood enhancers. Exotic essential oils such as ylang ylang, geranium or jasmine will really heighten and enhance the senses. When you are satisfied with your setting it’s time to sink into your tub and spoil yourself. Now is a good time to start tuning in and becoming aware of the breath. Allow yourself to breathe a little deeper and slower into the lower abdomen...starting to feel a wave of relaxation spreading throughout your body... The bathing ritual is a beautiful gift to pamper oneself or to share with a partner, who you may wish to bathe you. Having a partner wash your hair can be very sexy!

The next step or suggestion is self massage which is wonderful when done in front of a full length mirror or if you prefer, lying down. Take a favourite cushion or pillow and drape with silk or any other sensual fabrics. You may also wish to adorn yourself with jewellery or perhaps a silk robe...something that feels good against the skin. Choose your favourite essential oil and start to spread slowly over the body, really paying attention to every part. Allow yourself to linger over sensitive areas such as your erogenous zones. Continuing to breathe steadily and deeply is also key at this stage, helping you to stay connected with yourself and present in your experience.

Love Carmelle and Rachael