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Showing posts with label Bathing ritual. Show all posts

Preparation rituals

Woman in bath ritual sensual bathing
Most of us have busy and at times stressful lives. We put our energy into work, children, household duties, financial matters and never ending ‘to do’ lists etc. Sharing intimate times with our partner can often take a back seat or become something hurried before falling asleep!

Whilst we all enjoy a spot of spontaneous lovemaking there is also something to be said for seeing it and approaching it as a ritual...savouring and intensifying every moment. Whether self pleasuring or being with our partner we like to bring in a sense of sacredness and fun. To prepare ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually we create a sacred space. This is normally the bedroom as it is quiet, warm and cosy. The things we bring into the sacred space are important. We like to create a sensual mood so have objects such as precious stones, statues/ornaments, fresh flowers and beautiful fabrics which can be draped to transform or hide any clutter in the room. Lighting is important...soft and subtle candles are a favourite. Music is equally important as the right music has the ability to invoke desires and feelings within us which can help to bring out the inner god/goddess!

So now we’ve prepared the space how about preparing ourselves as well? If you have a night of self- loving in mind you may be thinking ‘what’s the point of that if I’m going to be alone?’ Tantra is about embracing all aspects of ourselves and this includes our own body image. Preparing ourselves and taking time to awaken our senses and honouring the body is important whether you are self pleasuring or making love with a partner.

A nice way to prepare is the bathing ritual, which is one of our favourites. Create and transform your bathroom into a luxurious and inviting space that you can really indulge in. As we mentioned earlier candles, soft lighting and sensual music are all wonderful mood enhancers. Exotic essential oils such as ylang ylang, geranium or jasmine will really heighten and enhance the senses. When you are satisfied with your setting it’s time to sink into your tub and spoil yourself. Now is a good time to start tuning in and becoming aware of the breath. Allow yourself to breathe a little deeper and slower into the lower abdomen...starting to feel a wave of relaxation spreading throughout your body... The bathing ritual is a beautiful gift to pamper oneself or to share with a partner, who you may wish to bathe you. Having a partner wash your hair can be very sexy!

The next step or suggestion is self massage which is wonderful when done in front of a full length mirror or if you prefer, lying down. Take a favourite cushion or pillow and drape with silk or any other sensual fabrics. You may also wish to adorn yourself with jewellery or perhaps a silk robe...something that feels good against the skin. Choose your favourite essential oil and start to spread slowly over the body, really paying attention to every part. Allow yourself to linger over sensitive areas such as your erogenous zones. Continuing to breathe steadily and deeply is also key at this stage, helping you to stay connected with yourself and present in your experience.

Love Carmelle and Rachael