New wild woman

Woman stretching renewal and liberation
Being on the receiving end of a tantra massage is often a very powerful and healing experience. One of the most important things is to have a good feeling about the person or persons who will hold the space for the session to take place.

When we mention healing and specific reasons why you may benefit from a tantric massage with ourselves, our own journey and personal experiences receiving tantra massage have been so liberating. The feeling of deep connection experienced within oneself often brings out the primal instincts of the forgotten wild woman suppressed within. This is brought about by releasing holdings and trauma in the body that we are often quite unaware of. Tantra massage is extremely healing and beneficial for:

-Emotional release (very cathartic)
-Painful periods or menopause
-Sexual traumas or sexual blocks (often unconscious)
-Shame around sexuality, often caused by society's conditioning
-Opening the heart and integrating the whole of oneself
-Awakening and accessing your own ecstatic spontaneous energy which is often lying dormant waiting to be aroused. This can be truly life changing.

The experience of the above releases can be very intense as we let go of what no longer is serving us and make space for new vital lighter energy. You may experience spontaneous energy making the body shudder or the release of sounds (very grounding) which we will encourage you to allow as the body opens up. You may instead be experiencing a more internal process which is equally as beneficial as we trust whatever takes place within a session will be what is needed at your core level and is your own unique experience.

The massage itself is whole body with the intention of integrating our sexual energy, emotional body whilst remaining present and aware.
We fully respect and encourage your boundaries and wishes regarding the session.

Love Carmelle and Rachael

The gift of unconditional touch

Woman receiving a gift of massage touchThe power of touch is so great it can lift your spirit to new heights or bring you down to earth with a thud! It can bring tingling, feelings of being adored, irritation, numbness, passion, excitement, warmth...what have you felt? There is no touch more amazing than one which is given purely for touch's sake. It is not being initiated as a precursor for sex or on condition that we return the favour. To allow ourselves to receive and receive fully, we must surrender any goals or specific outcomes and instead be tuned in with and relax into whatever we may be feeling in that present moment and the easiest way of doing this is to stay conscious with your breath.

To give unconditional touch can be an incredibly sensual and also healing experience, both for the giver and receiver. When giving, start by taking your awareness away from your partner and focus on your fingertips. Bring them to life! If you close your eyes when you begin to touch, this will heighten the feeling in the pads of your fingers. Make your intention one of meditation and visualise or feel the energy coming from your hands. Let your fingers sense what is desired in that moment instead of worrying about a technique.

You can use slow sweeping strokes, light stroking or even your breath. Blowing slowly up the spine will make your partner tingle! Let a hand just rest sometimes, perhaps on the heart, and connect with the eyes. Explore the texture of the skin. Where does it change? Can you find the very smoothest part? Feel your partner's body temperature and for any sensations such as vibrating, tenseness, relaxation. Caress along the inner arms and down to the centre of the palms. Use your mouth and your breath around the neck and ears. Don't overlook any parts of the body...you may be surprised which areas bring pleasure!

If you feel yourself forming an agenda or getting restless, acknowledge that as a distraction and let yourself move through it, letting it pass. The key to giving is staying present and connected to your partner, thus creating trust and opening the heart centre.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Moving to the same rhythm

Man Woman Dancing Closeness Rhythm
There are days and moments when we can all feel a little out of rhythm with ourselves or our beloved. Hopefully though our desire is to come back and reconnect. This is a very simple but intimate meditation using the breath to tune in and connect with another person.

To begin the man sits leaning against a wall or something that can support him. The woman sits in front and slowly leans back into him, facing the same way. Close your eyes and start to tune into your own breath. Take the breath slowly down into the lower abdomen. Relax. After about 3 or 4 minutes or when the man feels ready he will begin to tune into the woman's breathing. He will breathe in when she breathes in and again follows her when she breathes out. Give yourselves at least 10 minutes before you then swop over. Stay in the same position but the woman will now follow the man's breath. You can finish this meditation by just lying and holding each other or moving into lovemaking.

This meditation is a wonderfully simple way of bringing in closeness, harmony and intimacy and if you wish can also be followed on from the eye gazing practice.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

A weekend with Bernie

Truth devotional speech satsang
Recently I took part in a weekend workshop with a self-realized Tantric teacher which was held in Glastonbury. The content of the weekend consisted mainly of Satsang, which is devotional speech with questions and answers. This is a new concept for me when it comes to Tantric workshop experiences, which are often focused on practises and techniques.

In Bernie’s presence I felt a great deal of transmission and I soaked up the open hearted connection present throughout the weekend and the sacred space that was created.

Bernie Prior teaches truth in every moment at soul level. Then and only then will true integration take place with the stripping away of one’s identity coming forth, allowing wholeness to occur.
Truth in every moment can be brutal as only real honesty can be. Bernie referred often throughout the weekend ‘be prepared to die for everything you know and identify with, don’t hold onto anything, let life and love flow through you, its living and breathing and forever evolving only then can one be truly present.’

Listen with your heart not your head. Our heads are full of stories, conditioning and old memories, trapping us and limiting us, not serving us in the now. Let life unfold and reveal itself from your deepest knowing, your heart will thank you for it.

Bernie Prior approach is a bit like a sledgehammer getting people to their raw truth by asking questions that were challenging and getting to the core. It’s certainly a recipe for rapid growth and transformation. I loved the weekend. It resonated in every vibration in my body, and left me with a curiosity and hunger for more.
Tantric teaching can have this effect but it’s hugely important to feel a connection to the teachings and be in a trusted environment. It’s wise to remember to be discerning and allow the information that feels right in your deepest knowing to open and transform. www.bernieprior.org

Love Carmelle and Rachael

Small delights

Couple watching Sunset on a bench
Last week I was lucky enough to receive a beautiful massage from my Tantric partner. I really felt in need of some serious kneading and pummelling, with sensitivity being a key ingredient...this was certainly delivered with a healing touch...
So lovely to sink into that space of timelessness, feeling tensions and mind chatter slip away. I felt very quickly relaxed and connected to a greater whole.When my pampering session had come to an end I was left to gently rest on our massage table in our Tantric studio, which is situated at quite a height giving amazing views across London.
As I slowly opened my eyes and gently accustomed myself to my surroundings I was filled with a sudden wave of emotion at the beauty around me.The sun was slowly setting and a beautiful dusky red and gold sky was emerging in the distance. It felt at this time as though I was seeing the sunset for the very first time and it truly took my breath away. The richness of the colours merging and changing before my eyes, were truly magical!
It was a great reminder of the natural beauty that constantly surrounds us and the importance in allowing ourselves to slow down, become present in our bodies, and really look at things! Beauty is often in sometimes what we see as mundane or the simple things we take for granted...

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Tip 3 - Eye Gazing

Man Woman Eye Gazing
In one of our sessions last week we were doing the beautiful practice of eye gazing. We were asked: ‘what happens if you are doing this with someone you are not attracted to, dislike or upset with?’...This practice can bring up many things for people: vulnerability, awkwardness, joy, resistance, openness, a feeling of being exposed or silly, ecstatic feelings...

Eye gazing is a form of meditation and can be done with a partner, a friend, on your own using a mirror, or sometimes with complete strangers if you are attending a workshop. The intention is to go behind and seeing beyond the other person’s expression or perceived level of attractiveness. Or in the case of a partner: perhaps any disagreements, grudges or resentments. It is about holding a sense of reverence and seeing the other person as a manifestation of the divine. It also teaches you to be fully present and relaxed, form deep connection, opens the heart and enables an acceptance of yourself and the person that you are sharing the practice with.


Agree on how long you will devote to this practice.
Start by sitting opposite each other, cross legged if that is comfortable, and close your eyes...
Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into the lower abdomen- It is not necessary at this point to try and synchronize your breathing together, although this tends to happen naturally after a while.
Once you feel centred and relaxed open your eyes...
Look into your partners left eye, keeping your eyes engaged but soft...
Let any thoughts, desires, distractions pass by allowing you the space to connect with the essence of the other person and then a feeling of expansion that goes beyond the two of you.
Finish with an embrace or Namaste and give each other five minutes in which to share how you felt.

Doing this practice creates oneness and a sense of dissolving or merging into another which are all important and central to the practice of Tantra.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Contraction and expansion

People jumping Expansion Energy Connection Sunset
Wow! Isn't it great to see the first signs of spring. Of course all seasons are special and should be welcomed for what they offer but often we have a preference or a season that is an instant mood enhancer.

That brings me to this month’s topic: Contraction as much as Expansion is a necessary part of our journey and growth and should be welcomed, for it teaches us to be vulnerable and allows us empathy and compassion and most of all acceptance of ourselves and others. Expansion of mind and body consciousness is what many of us strive to maintain in daily living. However, maintaining the state of expanded consciousness in an often busy frenetic world can be extremely challenging. It is often much easier for us to feel connected and experience heightened states of awareness whilst being part of a group dynamic such as a Tantric workshop or experiencing a Tantric session.


All our senses can be remarkably heightened, our perception sharper, our hearts open and receptive and our ability to connect with ourselves and others at a much deeper level. One of the beautiful things about being in a workshop or session space is we are usually forced to work through challenging issues and emotions that arise, but we are doing so in a safe and sacred environment that supports our process with likeminded people. We ourselves have experienced a wide range of emotions on workshops: from laughter to sadness, sometimes almost ready to make a run for the door. Thank goodness we stayed! Imagine what we would have missed...it has often been transformative.


Following Tantric workshops or sessions it is important to be aware that we may experience a period of contraction. This could be experienced in different ways such as feeling detached from ourselves and others as our heart yearns for the deep connection it has recently experienced. A sense of loss is sometimes felt as we struggle to hold on to our newly awakened state. We may also still be processing unresolved issues that have been repressed for some time.It can be challenging integrating our experiences in our relationships and day to day life, so it is vital to take care of yourself at these times and really listen to your body’s signals. It is like letting the dust settle. The great news is you will feel much lighter and in tune with yourself than you probably have felt in a very long time.

Another tip to integrating which we find tremendous fun is to attend interactive group get togethers. Luckily we are spoilt for choice in London. One of our favourites is Dynamic Meditation, practised in many venues throughout London...it really gets you grounded in your body as well as being very cathartic. Chi gong is always a firm favourite with the emphasis on being deeply rooted before starting to circulate ones energy. This helps with counteracting highs and lows and stabilising the body’s energies. A good place to start if you are looking to attend a chi gong class is chikungschool.com
So with these tips we hope this helps you to welcome and accept yourself as the fascinating tapestry you are!


Love Carmelle and Rachael 

Tip 2 - Releasing and awakening

Chakras meditationHere we are in 2009! How did you start your year...with a spring in your step, in a daze, full of good intentions, excitement and/or nervousness about the future, holding on to disappointments, celebrating with joy and a sense of lightness and wonder about yourself and those around you?

Last year we found ourselves spending an amazing, joyful time in northern California where we participated in a Tantra group workshop led by Steve and Lokita Carter from the Ecstatic Living Institute and Margot Anand. We started every morning with an active meditation...one of them being the Quantum Light Breath. This is a dynamic breath meditation which was originally created by Jeru Kabal, the late mystic. There is another version by Richard Bock and the Quantum Light Breath Orchestra which is equally powerful. Richard Bock studied with Jeru in 1992 and he came along on one of the mornings and guided us through the meditation accompanied by wonderful live music...it was an unforgettable experience...


Practicing Tantra almost inevitably means having to do emotional healing work...a spring clean of things that are holding us back, releasing old beliefs, emotions, thoughts and dissolving those barriers that have been limiting us...to clear the path and avoid falling back into old patterns... The Quantum Light Breath meditation is a great tool to use for this and also going through any kind of transition or seeking spiritual expansion. You can do it alone however we would recommend doing it with someone for the first time and of course the energy changes again with a group dynamic. You may find different things coming up: emotions, thoughts or sensations and it is important to allow those things to just be there without becoming involved or caught up in them.

Anything that helps us to feel stronger, more balanced and fulfilled cannot be bad!

Love Rachael and Carmelle