Sensual Breast Massage

Womans Breast Massage
As well as being highly pleasurable, breast massage has considerable health benefits too such as, improving blood and lymphatic circulation, flushing out toxins, understanding and noticing any changes in the breasts, strengthening the muscle tissue in the chest and bringing awareness, healing and increased sensitivity to the whole area. If done with a partner it can also deepen intimacy with each other.The area of the breasts is often the seat of a woman's sexuality and a powerful portal into the heart. Massaging this area connects to the heart energy which, from a tantric perspective, is also one of the energetic positive poles in women. Women have different levels of sensitivity which can change during the massage and may feel anything from mildly/gently stimulating to highly arousing sensations, so touch given in a mindful and loving way is essential.

A woman can of course do this herself, or if her partner would like to give the massage, here are a few tips...

Make yourself comfortable ~ Women, lie on your back using cushions to prop yourself up a little if you wish, with knees slightly bent so your partner can sit between your legs. Your partner could also sit behind you, supporting you in a more upright position, with you leaning back into him.

Take time to connect ~ This is a time for both of you to relax, drop the busyness of the mind and enjoy. Depending on the position that you have chosen, the man could place one hand over the woman's heart centre and spend a couple of minutes just gazing softly at each other. If the man is behind supporting her, acknowledge each others presence by gently breathing together.

Stay present ~ Once you're ready to begin the massage, the man can try this visualisation...remain aware of your breath whilst feeling or visualising a warm energy travelling from your heart, through your arms, spreading into your hands and fingertips and continuing into wherever your hands are on your partners body. Women, also stay aware of your breath. Keep your full attention in your breasts, visualising them filling with energy as you slowly inhale and exhale.

Warm some oil in the palms of your hands. Good quality coconut, grapeseed or almond are great choices.

~ Start by placing your hands in the centre of the chest and then, using the palm of your hand and light pressure, massage around the breast using slow circular movements.
~ Massage from centre outwards towards the shoulder or underarm area.
~ Take your time to enjoy the sensations whilst you let your hand glide slowly over your partners skin.
~ Using both hands, lift the breast away from the chest and gently knead using a lifting and pressing action.
~ Again with both hands and a sensitive touch, gently twist the breast in a kind of wringing motion.
~ Softly stroke the area between the breasts, gliding your hands up with feather like strokes.
~ Placing your hand over the breast so that you can feel the nipple touching the centre of your palm, spread your fingers wide and then slowly begin to bring them together until they reach the nipple where you can give a soft, light pinch.
~ Using your thumb and finger, slowly begin to massage the nipple in a circular motion. Continue on to gently squeezing and then pulling the nipple towards you - or away from you if sitting behind her. 
~ Repeat on the other breast

To finish the massage, be sure to integrate the breasts with the rest of her body. You can do this by gently sweeping your hands up the centre of her chest, over her breasts, down her arms and over her belly. Over the breasts, up the neck, sides of the face and through the hair is also great if sitting behind her.

Love Rachael and Carmelle  

Post Birth Tantra Massage

Woman in nature birth renewal
In many different cultures throughout the world, when a woman has given birth, it is recognised to be such a sacred and sensitive time. A woman is then given the time and the space to heal after the impact of childbirth. A Brazilian friend of mine explained that after giving birth she was to recuperate and heal for the first month in bed. Her only task was to breastfeed, her child brought to her when nourishment was needed and of course to bond! This idea is present in many cultures still today.

Also, when a woman has given birth, the pelvis drops and massage is needed directly if possible after and frequently to help it return to its natural place. This often takes place on a daily basis for the month following birth.

The trauma often experienced during childbirth, both emotionally and physically, can leave a strong imprint, so it is very important for healing and release of any less than positive memory stored in the body. Touch and healing massage are a great healer and help to integrate such a powerful experience.

Ecstatic birthing and empowered birthing are very much at the forefront today with women taking back the power and the knowledge that as woman, our bodies indeed have all the knowledge and wisdom we need to give birth - whether or not we choose to have conventional medical assistance and sometimes intervention, or the unconventional choice of a growing number of woman choosing unassisted birthing.

After the birth of my twins, healing massage was part of my recovery and felt essential to healing any residue of trauma I experienced. My birth was in many ways empowered, but I fought all the way for that choice. Just to share in short my own birth journey and some challenges I faced and my own need for healing... Whilst my labour was an amazing journey through hypno birthing and drug free, I was also amazed to experience a lot of natural serotonin flooding my cells and blissful sensations in the comfort of my own home, whilst immersed in water. My actual delivery happened in hospital under bright lights with a desperation for me to deliver quickly and with the constant threat of a cesarean thrust at me from the medical establishment. Unfortunately, I had been pushing for some time at home with little happening, so hospital was the next port of call where I delivered quickly and following my little boys infection we spent his first few days in hospital.

Luckily for me, Rachael was on hand to help me with that healing process and her sensitive intuitive touch allowed me to open to energetic wounds and holdings and release physically and emotionally. Also to reconnect to myself as a woman and not just a mother in the months following the birth.

In our experience in giving woman tantra massage post birth, alot of women are experiencing feelings of being cut off from their sexuality, low libido, loss of identity whilst integrating their new body image and lack of self love due to the new pressures of having to give out constantly.
Self love and reconnective massage can be vital in this integration process and a wonderful gift to give yourself or your partner.

With love, Carmelle and Rachael  

Shamanic Sexual Wisdom

It's fascinating to look at different Tantric traditions and their ways to heal and cultivate sexual energy. In our practise we draw on Indian and Daoist traditions mainly, Osho being a great teacher and influence. I also enjoy Shamanic teachings and attend regular healing ceremonies. However, some of the tantric sexual practises are very new to me, although many are the same just reflected differently.
Book showing man and serpent
This brings me to a book I'm really enjoying at present, Don Juan and the Art of Sexual Energy by Merilyn Tunneshende. This book is about Carlos Caseneda who was quite possibly the most famous shaman of his time. He died in 1998 and some of his Tantric teachings were found and brought together in this book with 22 exercises, which of course is a master number for cultivating and manifesting.
This is a small extract focusing on Male Sexual Energy, talking about male kundalini serpent energy, Shamanic description of the male big draw, and reasons for non ejaculation:

''Longevity, for example, is directly related to potency in males and is a highly desirable characteristic. You see, for a man, the mouth of the serpent becomes the genitals and the head is the rattle. By sipping back on the energies and fluids, using fore breath up the spine, accompanied by a roll of the eyes deep into the back of the head, rather than by expelling the energy, one increases the number of the rattles on the tail, one increases longevity, always indicated by the length of the rattle, and wisdom, indicated by its shake, the stimulation. Men do not have limitless sexual energys, despite what we may want our partners to believe.''

I thoroughly recommend this book for its insight into shamanic tantric practices.

Love Carmelle and Rachael

First tantric session?

Image containing text intimacy presence tantra
When going for a Tantra session, especially if it's the first time, along with a feeling of excitement it may also be quite daunting! You may have a whole cocktail of thoughts whirling around in your head: What will happen? What do I do? How should I be? What if I do something wrong?...

A beautiful and easier way to approach a session is with the curiosity of a child discovering something new. A child is very much in the present, not concerned with a particular outcome, just enjoying and engrossed fully in the moment.

A word that you may have heard when reading about Tantra is 'surrender.' This is not a surrender to another person or giving up/losing something of ourselves or abandoning personal responsibility. It is a letting go, a trusting. Letting go of any preconceived ideas of ourself, the session, the outcome, and the questions whirling around in our head, and trusting in the power of our higher self. A very simple way to experience surrender is with the breath. Each exhale is surrender, a letting go, reaching deeper, relaxing further. Letting go of this control, which is often fear based, can make us feel quite vulnerable at first but it also allows us to be more open and to connect more fully and authentically.

'The best way is to simply surrender to existence and allow it to take you wherever it takes you; it has never taken anybody into any wrong space. It always takes you back home. The essential surrender happens within you, it has nothing to do with anybody outside you. The basic surrender is a relaxation, a trust — so don’t be misguided by the word. Linguistically, surrender means to surrender to somebody, but religiously, surrender simply means trust, relaxing. It is an attitude rather than an act: you live through trust' ~ Osho

Love Rachael and Carmelle 


Yellow daffodils in field Spring solstice
With Spring Solstice in the air, it's a perfect time to welcome the season according to your beliefs and interests. It's the season of fertility, so a great time to plant the seed for new ideas and intentions.

I myself took part in a ceremony on the Solstice with the intention set as Transformation. It was a beautiful way to welcome a powerful intention through singing, prayer and sharing. Every intention is always made stronger and given power by voicing it to a group, this raises the vibration, provides group healing and sets up an energetic transmission. The power of prayer, being in gratitude and surrender strengthens our intentions and helps to manifest. The surrender is important to release any emotion around attachment to the outcome we may have for our intention, as it may not always look the way we envisioned it and it's important to try and see the changes in any small way they may be presented to us.

Renewal is born as we shine our light on our shadows, share our burdens and lighten our load. Liberating ourselves and feeling the freedom that is our birth right.

love Carmelle and Rachael 

Female Massage - Releasing Inner Wild Woman

Rose petals sensualFemale Tantric massage is an amazing journey and never ending discovery.
The experience of a full body massage in such a heart felt way by fellow woman is extremely healing.

This massage entitles us and welcomes us to completely surrender and fully let go. An opportunity to focus on ourselves, and remind ourselves how fascinating and complex woman's sexuality really is.
The surrender can be challenging as we are used to interacting and engaging when in an intimate situation. In your Tantra massage we will support and hold the space for you to really own your own experience which is truly healing and empowering.

In these sessions it is possible to experience a range of different things from emotional releases to ecstatic bliss. As woman we often hold on to trauma in our bodies that we are totally unaware of. Trauma from childbirth, painful periods, sexual abuse, shame or guilt, to name a few. Also from being touched in ways that were neither respectful or satisfying.

Our intention is to be fully present and open to your needs whilst setting clear boundaries necessary in honouring such a sacred experience.
In Tantra massage the journey is always the most important part and the focus on breathe helps to keep us present and alive in each moment we experience. Goalposts only get in the way, along with expectations. Our childlike curiosity will stand us in good stead for embarking on our wild personal adventure!

Love Carmelle and Rachael 

A happy and loving 2010!

Champagne glasses New Years hopes and desires
A new year has begun. A time to remember the past:our achievements, experiences, good and bad times... A time to look forward:to hopes and desires, what we wish for...

This could also be the year in which we decide to just stay more in the present moment. In those moments were we find our mind beginning to wander aimlessly or perhaps going off on its own little mission somewhere, to consciously bring it right back to where we are, what we are doing, who we are with. Right now. Try dropping expectations of what we want, how it should be, and instead live what is happening right now. Live it fully. Live in totality. Live with presence.

'Meditation is an attitude not an activity, so whatever you do can become meditative. The so-called meditation that people go on doing is not meditation. It is the attitude of being in the present which is the core, the central, the essential thing. Do whatever you are doing - walking on the street, running, taking a bath, eating, going to sleep, lying on the bed, relaxing - and remain with the activity totally. With no past, no future, remain in the present. It will be difficult in the beginning - very difficult and very arduous - but by and by you will get the feel of it and then a new door will open, a new realm. Then the thought process will no longer be there' ~ OSHO
love Rachael and Carmelle

New wild woman

Woman stretching renewal and liberation
Being on the receiving end of a tantra massage is often a very powerful and healing experience. One of the most important things is to have a good feeling about the person or persons who will hold the space for the session to take place.

When we mention healing and specific reasons why you may benefit from a tantric massage with ourselves, our own journey and personal experiences receiving tantra massage have been so liberating. The feeling of deep connection experienced within oneself often brings out the primal instincts of the forgotten wild woman suppressed within. This is brought about by releasing holdings and trauma in the body that we are often quite unaware of. Tantra massage is extremely healing and beneficial for:

-Emotional release (very cathartic)
-Painful periods or menopause
-Sexual traumas or sexual blocks (often unconscious)
-Shame around sexuality, often caused by society's conditioning
-Opening the heart and integrating the whole of oneself
-Awakening and accessing your own ecstatic spontaneous energy which is often lying dormant waiting to be aroused. This can be truly life changing.

The experience of the above releases can be very intense as we let go of what no longer is serving us and make space for new vital lighter energy. You may experience spontaneous energy making the body shudder or the release of sounds (very grounding) which we will encourage you to allow as the body opens up. You may instead be experiencing a more internal process which is equally as beneficial as we trust whatever takes place within a session will be what is needed at your core level and is your own unique experience.

The massage itself is whole body with the intention of integrating our sexual energy, emotional body whilst remaining present and aware.
We fully respect and encourage your boundaries and wishes regarding the session.

Love Carmelle and Rachael

The gift of unconditional touch

Woman receiving a gift of massage touchThe power of touch is so great it can lift your spirit to new heights or bring you down to earth with a thud! It can bring tingling, feelings of being adored, irritation, numbness, passion, excitement, warmth...what have you felt? There is no touch more amazing than one which is given purely for touch's sake. It is not being initiated as a precursor for sex or on condition that we return the favour. To allow ourselves to receive and receive fully, we must surrender any goals or specific outcomes and instead be tuned in with and relax into whatever we may be feeling in that present moment and the easiest way of doing this is to stay conscious with your breath.

To give unconditional touch can be an incredibly sensual and also healing experience, both for the giver and receiver. When giving, start by taking your awareness away from your partner and focus on your fingertips. Bring them to life! If you close your eyes when you begin to touch, this will heighten the feeling in the pads of your fingers. Make your intention one of meditation and visualise or feel the energy coming from your hands. Let your fingers sense what is desired in that moment instead of worrying about a technique.

You can use slow sweeping strokes, light stroking or even your breath. Blowing slowly up the spine will make your partner tingle! Let a hand just rest sometimes, perhaps on the heart, and connect with the eyes. Explore the texture of the skin. Where does it change? Can you find the very smoothest part? Feel your partner's body temperature and for any sensations such as vibrating, tenseness, relaxation. Caress along the inner arms and down to the centre of the palms. Use your mouth and your breath around the neck and ears. Don't overlook any parts of the may be surprised which areas bring pleasure!

If you feel yourself forming an agenda or getting restless, acknowledge that as a distraction and let yourself move through it, letting it pass. The key to giving is staying present and connected to your partner, thus creating trust and opening the heart centre.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Moving to the same rhythm

Man Woman Dancing Closeness Rhythm
There are days and moments when we can all feel a little out of rhythm with ourselves or our beloved. Hopefully though our desire is to come back and reconnect. This is a very simple but intimate meditation using the breath to tune in and connect with another person.

To begin the man sits leaning against a wall or something that can support him. The woman sits in front and slowly leans back into him, facing the same way. Close your eyes and start to tune into your own breath. Take the breath slowly down into the lower abdomen. Relax. After about 3 or 4 minutes or when the man feels ready he will begin to tune into the woman's breathing. He will breathe in when she breathes in and again follows her when she breathes out. Give yourselves at least 10 minutes before you then swop over. Stay in the same position but the woman will now follow the man's breath. You can finish this meditation by just lying and holding each other or moving into lovemaking.

This meditation is a wonderfully simple way of bringing in closeness, harmony and intimacy and if you wish can also be followed on from the eye gazing practice.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

A weekend with Bernie

Truth devotional speech satsang
Recently I took part in a weekend workshop with a self-realized Tantric teacher which was held in Glastonbury. The content of the weekend consisted mainly of Satsang, which is devotional speech with questions and answers. This is a new concept for me when it comes to Tantric workshop experiences, which are often focused on practises and techniques.

In Bernie’s presence I felt a great deal of transmission and I soaked up the open hearted connection present throughout the weekend and the sacred space that was created.

Bernie Prior teaches truth in every moment at soul level. Then and only then will true integration take place with the stripping away of one’s identity coming forth, allowing wholeness to occur.
Truth in every moment can be brutal as only real honesty can be. Bernie referred often throughout the weekend ‘be prepared to die for everything you know and identify with, don’t hold onto anything, let life and love flow through you, its living and breathing and forever evolving only then can one be truly present.’

Listen with your heart not your head. Our heads are full of stories, conditioning and old memories, trapping us and limiting us, not serving us in the now. Let life unfold and reveal itself from your deepest knowing, your heart will thank you for it.

Bernie Prior approach is a bit like a sledgehammer getting people to their raw truth by asking questions that were challenging and getting to the core. It’s certainly a recipe for rapid growth and transformation. I loved the weekend. It resonated in every vibration in my body, and left me with a curiosity and hunger for more.
Tantric teaching can have this effect but it’s hugely important to feel a connection to the teachings and be in a trusted environment. It’s wise to remember to be discerning and allow the information that feels right in your deepest knowing to open and transform.

Love Carmelle and Rachael

Small delights

Couple watching Sunset on a bench
Last week I was lucky enough to receive a beautiful massage from my Tantric partner. I really felt in need of some serious kneading and pummelling, with sensitivity being a key ingredient...this was certainly delivered with a healing touch...
So lovely to sink into that space of timelessness, feeling tensions and mind chatter slip away. I felt very quickly relaxed and connected to a greater whole.When my pampering session had come to an end I was left to gently rest on our massage table in our Tantric studio, which is situated at quite a height giving amazing views across London.
As I slowly opened my eyes and gently accustomed myself to my surroundings I was filled with a sudden wave of emotion at the beauty around me.The sun was slowly setting and a beautiful dusky red and gold sky was emerging in the distance. It felt at this time as though I was seeing the sunset for the very first time and it truly took my breath away. The richness of the colours merging and changing before my eyes, were truly magical!
It was a great reminder of the natural beauty that constantly surrounds us and the importance in allowing ourselves to slow down, become present in our bodies, and really look at things! Beauty is often in sometimes what we see as mundane or the simple things we take for granted...

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Tip 3 - Eye Gazing

Man Woman Eye Gazing
In one of our sessions last week we were doing the beautiful practice of eye gazing. We were asked: ‘what happens if you are doing this with someone you are not attracted to, dislike or upset with?’...This practice can bring up many things for people: vulnerability, awkwardness, joy, resistance, openness, a feeling of being exposed or silly, ecstatic feelings...

Eye gazing is a form of meditation and can be done with a partner, a friend, on your own using a mirror, or sometimes with complete strangers if you are attending a workshop. The intention is to go behind and seeing beyond the other person’s expression or perceived level of attractiveness. Or in the case of a partner: perhaps any disagreements, grudges or resentments. It is about holding a sense of reverence and seeing the other person as a manifestation of the divine. It also teaches you to be fully present and relaxed, form deep connection, opens the heart and enables an acceptance of yourself and the person that you are sharing the practice with.

Agree on how long you will devote to this practice.
Start by sitting opposite each other, cross legged if that is comfortable, and close your eyes...
Begin to breathe slowly and deeply into the lower abdomen- It is not necessary at this point to try and synchronize your breathing together, although this tends to happen naturally after a while.
Once you feel centred and relaxed open your eyes...
Look into your partners left eye, keeping your eyes engaged but soft...
Let any thoughts, desires, distractions pass by allowing you the space to connect with the essence of the other person and then a feeling of expansion that goes beyond the two of you.
Finish with an embrace or Namaste and give each other five minutes in which to share how you felt.

Doing this practice creates oneness and a sense of dissolving or merging into another which are all important and central to the practice of Tantra.

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Contraction and expansion

People jumping Expansion Energy Connection Sunset
Wow! Isn't it great to see the first signs of spring. Of course all seasons are special and should be welcomed for what they offer but often we have a preference or a season that is an instant mood enhancer.

That brings me to this month’s topic: Contraction as much as Expansion is a necessary part of our journey and growth and should be welcomed, for it teaches us to be vulnerable and allows us empathy and compassion and most of all acceptance of ourselves and others. Expansion of mind and body consciousness is what many of us strive to maintain in daily living. However, maintaining the state of expanded consciousness in an often busy frenetic world can be extremely challenging. It is often much easier for us to feel connected and experience heightened states of awareness whilst being part of a group dynamic such as a Tantric workshop or experiencing a Tantric session.

All our senses can be remarkably heightened, our perception sharper, our hearts open and receptive and our ability to connect with ourselves and others at a much deeper level. One of the beautiful things about being in a workshop or session space is we are usually forced to work through challenging issues and emotions that arise, but we are doing so in a safe and sacred environment that supports our process with likeminded people. We ourselves have experienced a wide range of emotions on workshops: from laughter to sadness, sometimes almost ready to make a run for the door. Thank goodness we stayed! Imagine what we would have has often been transformative.

Following Tantric workshops or sessions it is important to be aware that we may experience a period of contraction. This could be experienced in different ways such as feeling detached from ourselves and others as our heart yearns for the deep connection it has recently experienced. A sense of loss is sometimes felt as we struggle to hold on to our newly awakened state. We may also still be processing unresolved issues that have been repressed for some time.It can be challenging integrating our experiences in our relationships and day to day life, so it is vital to take care of yourself at these times and really listen to your body’s signals. It is like letting the dust settle. The great news is you will feel much lighter and in tune with yourself than you probably have felt in a very long time.

Another tip to integrating which we find tremendous fun is to attend interactive group get togethers. Luckily we are spoilt for choice in London. One of our favourites is Dynamic Meditation, practised in many venues throughout really gets you grounded in your body as well as being very cathartic. Chi gong is always a firm favourite with the emphasis on being deeply rooted before starting to circulate ones energy. This helps with counteracting highs and lows and stabilising the body’s energies. A good place to start if you are looking to attend a chi gong class is
So with these tips we hope this helps you to welcome and accept yourself as the fascinating tapestry you are!

Love Carmelle and Rachael 

Tip 2 - Releasing and awakening

Chakras meditationHere we are in 2009! How did you start your year...with a spring in your step, in a daze, full of good intentions, excitement and/or nervousness about the future, holding on to disappointments, celebrating with joy and a sense of lightness and wonder about yourself and those around you?

Last year we found ourselves spending an amazing, joyful time in northern California where we participated in a Tantra group workshop led by Steve and Lokita Carter from the Ecstatic Living Institute and Margot Anand. We started every morning with an active of them being the Quantum Light Breath. This is a dynamic breath meditation which was originally created by Jeru Kabal, the late mystic. There is another version by Richard Bock and the Quantum Light Breath Orchestra which is equally powerful. Richard Bock studied with Jeru in 1992 and he came along on one of the mornings and guided us through the meditation accompanied by wonderful live was an unforgettable experience...

Practicing Tantra almost inevitably means having to do emotional healing work...a spring clean of things that are holding us back, releasing old beliefs, emotions, thoughts and dissolving those barriers that have been limiting clear the path and avoid falling back into old patterns... The Quantum Light Breath meditation is a great tool to use for this and also going through any kind of transition or seeking spiritual expansion. You can do it alone however we would recommend doing it with someone for the first time and of course the energy changes again with a group dynamic. You may find different things coming up: emotions, thoughts or sensations and it is important to allow those things to just be there without becoming involved or caught up in them.

Anything that helps us to feel stronger, more balanced and fulfilled cannot be bad!

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Preparation rituals

Woman in bath ritual sensual bathing
Most of us have busy and at times stressful lives. We put our energy into work, children, household duties, financial matters and never ending ‘to do’ lists etc. Sharing intimate times with our partner can often take a back seat or become something hurried before falling asleep!

Whilst we all enjoy a spot of spontaneous lovemaking there is also something to be said for seeing it and approaching it as a ritual...savouring and intensifying every moment. Whether self pleasuring or being with our partner we like to bring in a sense of sacredness and fun. To prepare ourselves emotionally, physically and spiritually we create a sacred space. This is normally the bedroom as it is quiet, warm and cosy. The things we bring into the sacred space are important. We like to create a sensual mood so have objects such as precious stones, statues/ornaments, fresh flowers and beautiful fabrics which can be draped to transform or hide any clutter in the room. Lighting is important...soft and subtle candles are a favourite. Music is equally important as the right music has the ability to invoke desires and feelings within us which can help to bring out the inner god/goddess!

So now we’ve prepared the space how about preparing ourselves as well? If you have a night of self- loving in mind you may be thinking ‘what’s the point of that if I’m going to be alone?’ Tantra is about embracing all aspects of ourselves and this includes our own body image. Preparing ourselves and taking time to awaken our senses and honouring the body is important whether you are self pleasuring or making love with a partner.

A nice way to prepare is the bathing ritual, which is one of our favourites. Create and transform your bathroom into a luxurious and inviting space that you can really indulge in. As we mentioned earlier candles, soft lighting and sensual music are all wonderful mood enhancers. Exotic essential oils such as ylang ylang, geranium or jasmine will really heighten and enhance the senses. When you are satisfied with your setting it’s time to sink into your tub and spoil yourself. Now is a good time to start tuning in and becoming aware of the breath. Allow yourself to breathe a little deeper and slower into the lower abdomen...starting to feel a wave of relaxation spreading throughout your body... The bathing ritual is a beautiful gift to pamper oneself or to share with a partner, who you may wish to bathe you. Having a partner wash your hair can be very sexy!

The next step or suggestion is self massage which is wonderful when done in front of a full length mirror or if you prefer, lying down. Take a favourite cushion or pillow and drape with silk or any other sensual fabrics. You may also wish to adorn yourself with jewellery or perhaps a silk robe...something that feels good against the skin. Choose your favourite essential oil and start to spread slowly over the body, really paying attention to every part. Allow yourself to linger over sensitive areas such as your erogenous zones. Continuing to breathe steadily and deeply is also key at this stage, helping you to stay connected with yourself and present in your experience.

Love Carmelle and Rachael

Tip 1: The love muscle

Text suggesting practice exercise
Tantric practises are easily integrated into daily life in many subtle ways. Here is a technique and easy exercise to begin with, that is simple to integrate whilst going about your daily routine:

A very important muscle, often referred to as the love muscle in Tantra, is the PC (puboccocogeus) muscle. This is the muscle we use to stop the flow of urine and it is present in both men and women.
Using the PC muscle in conjunction with the breath, try inhaling whilst tensing the PC muscle then releasing on the exhale. Once you have mastered that, you can try a quick pulsing action or, when you feel comfortable, try tensing and holding for 6 seconds before releasing. This creates a pleasant sensation as well as moving the energy up the back of the spine and helping to circulate the energy throughout the body. It also has a wonderful rejuvenating effect... very worthwhile when you need a little pick me up!

It is important to keep this muscle strong and healthy by exercising it regularly. The benefits are expanded orgasm and pleasure, heightened sensations during lovemaking and stronger ejaculation control.

Love Carmelle and Rachael 

Tantric Play

Yin Yang SymbolWe have a lot of fun playing this game and thought you might like to try it. You may be familiar with the concept of Yin Yang and how they are based on opposites that make the whole. This is because each also contains an element of varying degrees of the other. One is not better than the other, rather they are both necessary and the ideal would be a balance of both. An example of Yin would be; receptive, stillness, female, cold, moon. Yang; force, movement, masculine, heat, sun.

Firstly you choose who will be yang -they will be expressing their desires. It is a chance to clearly speak your own thoughts and wishes. It can be difficult sometimes to just receive as we often feel we need to (or want to) give something back in return. An example you may wish for could be a massage. Be specific and let your partner know which essential oil you would like, the pressure of touch, how long it should last etc.

The role of yin is one of nurturing, being present and encouraging yang to explore and be open about their desires. This will create intimacy, strong communication and trust.

A few things to consider; decide how long each of you will have, You may have a couple of wishes that could last for a few hours or lots of little ones that you can spread out over the agreed time. Remember that the intention of this is not a power play situation. Do not ask for something that you know your partner cannot or would not be comfortable doing. It also does not have to be sexual wishes. This can be a great chance to challenge ourselves a bit in a fun way as we can often find it difficult to ask for things we want for fear of seeming selfish, being rejected, lack of time and numerous other things. Explore and be creative but most of all have a sense of playfulness.

Love Carmelle and Rachael

Intimate loving - Orgasmic living

Man Woman Kissing Intimacy Nature Sensual
For a lot of people there is a certain misunderstanding and mystery surrounding Tantra and sex. This is partly due to the way in which we view and approach sex, both on our own or with a partner. In the west we often crave immediate gratification, using sex as a source of releasing stress, seeing ejaculation as the goal to be reached, touching but not really feeling the other person, assuming that if you just spend some time focusing on the genital area, he/she will be turned on and ready for the ‘next step.’
Whilst there is nothing particularly bad about that you can lose the more subtle and expanding sensations as the experience tends to be limited and localized in the genital area only. We look for outside sources for stimulation, for example, pornography, sex toys, fantasies, something (or someone) new to spice things up. We can lose the ability to just look within to turn ourselves on.

There are many stereotypical ideas that we attach or expect from each other. Men are often expected to be powerful and to initiate sex. They may feel pressure about giving a good performance and having an amazing sexual technique. This can lead to anxiety and disconnection as it then becomes a sex ‘act’ by only staying in the mind rather than approaching lovemaking from your heart and body too. Women can often have negative feelings about their bodies; not smooth, thin, firm, too fat, too dimply...the list can be endless. Social conditioning can make it difficult for women to express their desires and needs for the fear of seeming aggressive or feeling vulnerable.

Only by discarding those gender stereotypes and allowing ourselves to accept and explore both the masculine and feminine aspects in each of us can we begin to relate to each other and understand our full potential.

Often in our relationships it can be difficult to maintain the freshness and the wonder that we had in the early stages of being together. We get attached to the story of who we are and the roles we play within our partnership. Old resentments and playing out old habits of relating to each other make it difficult to view our beloved through fresh eyes. This often carries through to our sexual relationships and it can quickly feel stale as we struggle to retain the early excitement. We can sometimes feel disconnected as we struggle to let go of old hurts and emotions bubbling under the surface.

In Tantric lovemaking we focus on being in the present and having a sense of awareness and consciousness with every gesture and touch, allowing our intention to be clear and flowing freely, which naturally occurs when surrendering into the present moment. Tantric lovemaking is like a dance; it is the energy between two people and what it creates and stirs deep within, flowing between you in an organic way. It is a shared journey and a merging of sexual energy, passion and intimacy building in a slow conscious way....melting together. It is less about doing something and more about just being.

Our Tantric sexual journey is made sacred; one way is to create a new environment, in fact we often refer to it as our sacred space. Our sacred space is the place in which all that is failing to serve us is left outside. For example an argument we may have had with a partner is left aside. A big part of Tantra is communication with open hearts, this makes it easier to tap into our truth and share in an uncensored way with our partner without fear or judgement.

A beautiful Tantric exercise is the hollow bamboo. This is where one partner assumes the role of giver and the other as receiver. The giver, Shiva, is the empty bamboo and must listen in totality to instructions by the receiver, Shakti. An example is Shiva giving Shakti a yoni massage. Eye contact and direct communication is kept throughout and Shiva is wholly there for whatever Shakti's experience may be. It can be extremely healing for both partners, as well as being mind blowing and orgasmic.....

Although we do not offer Tantric sex sessions, we do offer ways in which you can start to explore your own personal Tantric journey.

Love Carmelle and Rachael

A Tantric Paradise.

Woman bathing outside paradise
Fancying a little break we took ourselves off on a Tantric retreat. Flying into San Francisco then driving a couple of hours north we arrive at Harbin hot springs. Beautifully quiet - no phones allowed or work anyway, with hills and luscious greenery all around. Checking into our simple but pretty room which will be home for the next seven days and feeling excited and full of beans despite the jet lag!
Venturing out to explore we pass the library, divine temple, the market store selling delicious foods, fresh juices and various lotions and potions. An Aladdin’s cave full of silks and gems in an array of colours catches our eye and tempts us in....mmm pure Goddess clothing. Saying hello and smiling like two cheshire cats at the various clothed/unclothed people passing us we make our way to the pools. There are four in total, all using 100% spring water and no chlorine. As they say, you can shower, cook, drink, brush your teeth or soak for hours with this water if you wish.

Bathing at night is one of the most delicious we lower ourselves slowly into the meditation pool everything just melts away....a stream of thoughts dissolving into the water. The sounds of wild animals and the cool night air gently ease us into a tranquil night of sleep.....

Waking up each day sleepy eyed at 7am for the morning meditation we cajole each other into the shower with positive words such as ‘It’ll wake you up’ and ‘It’s the best way to start the day.’ As neither of us are early birds this essential scenario is played out each morning...

Isn’t it funny how you are able to immerse yourself and how much easier it tends to be when you’re in a different environment? The week could be described as both rollercoaster and bliss but one thing was for sure, we were both fully engaged and focused on the present moment- an essential part of Tantra.

Harbin has a wonderful array of workshops that run all the year round. Many are designed around sexuality, intimacy, love and its healing aspects. An important part of the workshop involved bringing to the surface our deepest fears and, it certainly did bring things up, including a great deal of resistance in most of us. However, then we are able to move beyond these feelings, revealing us in our pure and true nature. Thank goodness for much laughter and dance to lighten the mood!
It reaffirms to us the deep healing power that Tantra has on our own lives, and the personal transformational effects we witnessed in the group we were honoured to be a part of. We found Harbin to be the perfect retreat centre to study and progress with our own personal tantric journey, a path that unfolds the deepest truth and joy within ourselves.

Love Rachael and Carmelle

Ready to explore?

Glass pendants hanging Questions
We like to ask people who come along and attend a session with us the question: What has drawn you to Tantra? The answers we receive are interesting and varied. Some of the common responses are; wanting to integrate sexuality and spiritual practices working with sexual energy, which can be enticing and also bring the missing link that they have been seeking, a sense of shyness, fear or guilt surrounding sexuality, problems with intimacy or a feeling of becoming disconnected and wishing to bring back that spark to maintain fulfilment and richness in their relationships, unable to receive and to let go of expectations, a busy stressful lifestyle and in need of some pampering, being stuck in certain emotions, looking for a playful and enjoyable way to explore themselves, missing a sense of deep connection or a feeling that ‘there must be more.’ Of course there are also people who are not sure why or just curious but sense that it would be a positive step.

Now that you have decided to explore your Tantric journey further, the question may be where do I go from here?
Workshops are often a good way to explore either singularly or as a couple or you may feel more comfortable having a private session to begin with. You may wish to gain knowledge by listening to a talk on Tantra as your first Tantric introduction. We were deeply inspired by Tantra teacher Sarita Mahasatvaa of the school of awakening. She holds regular talks in London and further afield. is also a great source of information. We both offer sessions for individuals and couples and are very happy to chat and discuss your session further.

We would encourage you to explore a little and go with what feels right for you......take a leap!

Love Rachael and Carmelle 

Namaste. A little about us....

I have been practicing holistic massage and bodywork since 1991 and am very aware of the impact it has both physiologically and psychologically. It can be used to invigorate and energise or promote relaxation through releasing tension and stress. Touch is perhaps one of the most neglected senses. However, when we are touched in a positive and healing way it stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, slowing the body down which in turn lowers the heart rate and helps deeper breathing. When given with the right intentions it is also comforting and helps us to feel more connected and centred.

Tantra shows me ways to achieve these feelings and more that in day to day life can sometimes be quite challenging! There are many different levels in which you can bring Tantra into your life. It can help to transform your relationships both with yourself and others. Tantra works with sexual energy, learning how to harness it and consciously move it through the body. It shows you how to see the divine in your partner and create intimacy and connection rather than goals and expectations. It is a spiritual path teaching you to trust and listen to the inner voice. It embraces everything, not just your sexuality. For my own personal and spiritual growth it is joyful, challenging and wonderfully inspiring. Rachael

I was interested in spirituality and my own body awareness from a young age. This helped install a sense of connection to a greater whole. It also left me with a desire to maintain a feeling of connectedness and inner peace. This is of course an ongoing journey.
The discovery of Tai chi and later Chi gong has had a hugely beneficial impact on my own self-development. Chi is the flow of life force energy, and the practise of chi gong instructs the movement of chi to areas of the body where needed to dissolve blockages. It is also a very grounding practise, and we believe it compliments our Tantra beautifully.
Tantra....Where do I start? It continues to bring so many wonderful surprises to my personal journey and others around me. Tantra is heart based and works with sexual energy focusing and transforming all aspects of life.Tantra is a way of life embracing all that is. Carmelle

Maybe this is your first delve into Tantra or perhaps you have already begun your Tantric journey. Either way there is much to discover and we welcome you with an open heart and mind.
Love Carmelle and Rachael


I honour the place in you in which
The entire universe dwells.
I honour the place in you which is of Love,
Of Trust, of Light, and of Peace.
When you are in that place in you,
And I am in that place in me,
We are one.